By knowing these few tricks, we will recognize our mistakes and get people to talk to us much more from now on.
Meeting new friends or being liked by everyone is not so easy. Especially if you lack a bit of self-confidence and don't find yourself in unfamiliar company. We are not aware of it ourselves, but even small things can decide what others think of us. Body language, facial expressions, even clothing. People understand each other for specific reasons. So how can we become more likable? What psychological tricks can we use in this? Here are some of our tips.
Let's imagine that we already know the person
If we are relaxed in a circle of friends, we are quite tense when we meet strangers. Our vocabulary will certainly not be too rich, and the interlocutor will also feel the lack of self-confidence. The discussion will definitely not develop, because no one likes to dig into the other. If we manage to calm down and imagine that we already know the interlocutor, we will conduct the conversation more confidently. Like talking to a friend. It's funny, but this will make us more interesting and likable to the interlocutor.
Let's observe body language
This is something that happens spontaneously, so body language is a good indicator of whether the interlocutor is interested in talking to us. The most important are the legs. If they turn towards us, it means that the interlocutor wants to talk to us. On the contrary, it means if he will turn his chest towards us. This means that he is not yet ready to end the conversation with the other person.
Eye contact
The eyes say a lot about how much the listener devotes himself to us, or how much he cares about him. Or rather, where they are looking. If the listener is interested in what we are telling him, he will mostly look us in the eye. We must do the same, otherwise we better change the subject or leave the floor to the interlocutor. People like to be listened to.
Let others tell about themselves
That being said, people like to be listened to. If we want to really get to know a person, we can only do so by listening to them. In this way, we will gain a lot of information in the conversation, with which we can continue the conversation ad infinitum. When a person is open with us, we know that they trust us.
We praise other people
It's interesting, but if we say positive things about someone else in the company of people, these people will start to associate similar compliments with us. Of course, it is not necessary to overdo it, because then it will not have the same effect. But it is wise to know that slander is not the best idea when meeting new people.
Spontaneous touch
Even something as simple as a touch can make a big impression on the interlocutor. Such touches are gentle (a touch of the hand, a pat on the shoulder), but they leave the interlocutor feeling that you are a friendly and warm person. It has been proven, for example, that a waitress who touches customers receives more tips than one who does not.
A smile
No one can shake that. A smile is definitely the most contagious facial expression. If we laugh a lot, the people around us will feel much more comfortable. When we meet someone for the first time, and we don't hide our smile, we have a much greater chance that this person will remember us.
Let's try to be positive
Let's radiate positive energy, so to speak. Such emotions as we will emit, this is how our interlocutor will also feel. Like yawning, emotions are contagious. People like to imitate the movements and facial expressions of the interlocutor. Therefore, if we can, let's show positive emotions. This way we will make sure that we will be happy to find others.
Chewing gum
If we are tense before meeting someone, it helps a lot to use chewing gum. The brain instinctively associates chewing with eating, which reduces the feeling of fear.
Let's not be afraid of personal questions
The conversation will be much more successful and will leave a greater impression if it does not consist only of chatter. About what the weather is like and stuff like that. The interlocutor will so quickly go elsewhere and forget about us. Of course, every conversation starts as a simple chat, but if we want the conversation to be long-lasting, we must not avoid personal questions, for example about wishes, interests, events from life... These are topics that in principle we would not tackle, but will interest the interlocutor pinned to the chair and he will listen to us with interest.
Let's show a sense of humor
Nobody likes boring people. That's just a fact. Of course, we doubt that such people even exist. Everyone has a unique sense of humor, which may not be to one's liking, while another may roll on the floor laughing at the same joke. We must not be afraid to tell jokes. In this way, we will become more self-confident and pleasant in society. Above all, authentic.
