When we meet a soulmate, our life takes on a different meaning. And this is supposed to happen three times in our lives - each time for a different reason.
1. Ours first love it happens when we are young, usually in high school. That is idealistic love, the one that usually seems like a fairy tale that we read to children. We enter it with the belief that it will be our only love, so it doesn't matter if it's not quite right - we're ready to 'devour' a lot for it, because deep down we believe that it is love.
In this kind of love, what others see is more important than what we actually feel ourselves.
2. Ours second love it is 'tough love', the one that teaches us about who we are and how often we want or need to feel loved. It is love that affects us either with help lies, pain or manipulations. We believe that we make different decisions than we did with our first love, but in truth we still choose the kind of love that will teach us something.
Our second love can become cyclical, we often repeat it because we believe it will end differently this time - but each time it ends worse. Sometimes it is unhealthy, unbalanced or narcissistically. There may be emotional, mental or even physical abuse and manipulation, possibly even major drama. This is exactly what keeps us hooked, because it is an emotional roller coaster of extremes. When we are on the ground, we expect the best.
With this love, we try our hardest, because it becomes more important to us than it really is.
3. The third love is the one which we do not expect. The one that is looks completely wrong to us and it destroys all our ideals, which we adhered to. This is the love that comes when it simply seems impossible. It is a connection that cannot be explained or undone as it turns our world upside down.
When we meet a person, we just belong together and nor are there ideal expectations about what this love should be. There are also no ideal expectations of how that person should behave, and no pressure to change for that person. We are simple accept such, as we are. This is just not what we intended love to be - it doesn't follow the rules that make it easiest for us to operate. It breaks our prejudices and teaches us, that love is not necessarily that, what we thought, that.
It is love that knocks on our door, no matter how long it takes us to answer.
Maybe we haven't or won't experience everything. Maybe we're not ready, or maybe we have to to learn, what is love, before we can understand it. And it may take us a lifetime to learn that lesson.
Then there are those who fall in love once and live their love passionately until their last breath.
