When we love someone, we believe that they mean something – and that they have a future. But life often doesn't follow the rules we imagine.
There are relationships that never really end – even if people they break upThere is a special category of love that is not measured by how long it lasts, but by how much it changes us.
And no, we don't always stay with the people who awakened the strongest emotions, the deepest longings, the greatest closeness in us. Often, it's these very people become a memory. And there is no tragedy in that. This is reality.
The modern idea of love is often mistaken, that it must be eternal, unconditional, perfect. But life does not allow itself to be put into ideal forms. In reality, it is not uncommon for the strongest, most sincere and deepest loves to not be the ones that last. They are the ones that they mark us, they shape, and then they leave space for us to become a new version of ourselves.
Love is not a promise of duration. It is a process.
Failure in a relationship is not always a sign that there wasn't a real connection. On the contrary. Often it's that two people are simply at different internal stations at a given moment. One wants peace, the other growth. One is waiting for validation, the other is looking for freedom. And in between – emotions that can't find balance.
Not staying with someone we loved with everything we had doesn't mean that person wasn't important. It could even have been key.The one who made us speak honestly for the first time.
The one that made us learned to set boundariesThe one who taught us that we cannot expect someone else to solve what we are not willing to look at within ourselves.
Leaving is not a defeat. Sometimes it's an ending.
Many people stay in relationships because they are afraid, that admitting the end would mean that it wasn't all real. But every love that taught us something was real - even if it didn't last. Duration is not the only measure of value.
Sometimes leaving is the bravest thing we can do. Because it means we see that love alone is not enough if there is no respect, understanding, a desire for mutual growth. And also – to admit that we have changed. That what we once needed is no longer enough today.
There's nothing wrong with that. It's not a cold ending. It's life.
The strongest loves often only transform us – they don't accompany us into the future.
A love that ends is not a collapse. It is a development. No one gets through such a love intact. But if we have luck (and courage), we go through it differently. More aware, more honest, more prepared for the future. That story that didn't end with a life together, may have ended with understandingwhich we would never have achieved without her.
There's nothing wrong with that. That's life. That's love.
