We can all agree that growing up wouldn't have been nearly as interesting and beautiful if we hadn't spent it with our best friends. However, very good old friendships often break up in adulthood - maybe you moved, changed company, focused on your partner or family, or you and your friend simply drifted apart. This can be extremely painful, but it does not mean that you cannot rekindle the friendship. We have prepared 6 ways for you to do this.
1. Take the first step
If you are one of those who usually they wait, for another person to contact them, we have bad news for you. On this way you are late a lot of wonderful experiences that you could come up with on the whole easy way. That's why take courage and take the first step: even if you feel that you bear some of the blame for the breakup of the friendship, this does not mean that your old friend carries grievances. And also, if it happens to be so- rejection will only mean that you will stay at the point where you are now.
The easiest way is to search mutual friend, which you are both in touch with and agree on hanging out together. If you do not have this option, then we suggest that you find an old friend with help social networks and you simply write to him that he you miss and would like to date him seen again. Regardless of the answer, it is important that your communication remains respectful.
2. Plan the first meeting in a relaxed environment
If your old friend agrees with the idea of dating again, then make an arrangement place and date of the meeting. Of course, keep in mind that about friends obligations right now you know less, so let him tell you which day would be best for him corresponded.
We suggest a meeting in lively cafes, which will help you break the ice, and the time spent together will be suitable for spending time together for the first time short.
3. Remind your friend of good memories from your youth
Absolutely normal is that you and your friend will have a little time first awkward. Therefore, we recommend that you choose as the topic of the conversation memories to shared moments. It's best to mention it possible arguments escape from the past as it is your goal the revival of friendship and not old grudges. Shared memories will also bring feelings of the past between you proximity and connection.
4. Prepare for potential disappointment
Don't worry, we're not saying the first meeting will end badly. However, there's always the chance that you and your friend are no longer together a lot in common, that is completely changed or that they are his views completely different from yours.
Therefore, it is important not to go out with excessive expectations, but to look at it as an interesting life experience.
5. Show interest
You will show your friend in the simplest way that he appreciate it by expressing for his life clear interest. Be careful not to ask too many questions personal questions, but let him know that you would like to hear about him learn more. This way you will restore confidence.
Here you also need to be careful not to overdo it direct: if you become friends with the way of life you don't agree, the first meeting is not the right moment to do that to him showed.
6. Make a plan for the next meeting
If you have the feeling that there was a gathering successfully and you can't wait to see each other again, do not hesitate. Tell your friend this and ask him when he has time to reunion. This is especially important if your friendship has broken up because you broke up remote control: with the modern way of life, this can happen even too quickly.
That's why it's important to approach plans with determination, but also be prepared for the eventuality date change: this does not in any way mean that the friend is not enthusiastic about the meeting.
