Too often in the world of relationships, we strive for those who don't care. We rush, chase, prove and wait for a response, which often does not exist. Do you perhaps dare to ask why you persist with people who do not return your affection? Why is it harder for us to see those who would be happy to walk with us on the same path? But what if the real one who doesn't run is already waiting somewhere on the side? The path to true happiness begins with clarity about what and who you really need.
Chasing Running Shadows - Why?
When we think about the partners we are chasing, we often ask ourselves: what is it about them that attracts us so much? Why are we repulsed by those who are already ready for a relationship? Psychologists say that the reasons for such behavior lie deeper, often in childhood or past experiences where we had to prove our worth. We develop a pattern that we have to earn love, that we are only attractive if we have to suffer or fight for it.
Chasing the wrongs exhausts us, destroys our confidence and often leads to feelings of inferiority. But the reality is that wrong relationships are just a test - not a destination. A real partner, the one who deserves you, will not stand on the podium and wait for you to "catch" him. The right partner will be there with you, step by step.
The secret of the real thing - there is no running away, only connection
A real partner doesn't run away. It may sound cliché, but a real person will stick by your side, no matter the challenges, no matter the hard times. A true partner is not afraid of commitment, does not hide from responsibilities and does not wait for you to prove your worth. A true partner will be down-to-earth, loyal, and will understand you in a way that gives you a sense of peace.
It is not a relationship without problems or friction, but it is a relationship where you solve problems together. True love is not one-sided. It is the love that lifts you up, inspires you and makes you feel important and loved. A true partner will motivate you to grow, but won't demand that you change for love.
Break with the illusion of chasing
Let's face it, chasing love can be addicting. Adrenaline, the feeling of anticipation, dreaming about what it will be like when we finally get love are illusions that can deceive us. But if love requires too much struggle, if you always have to prove your worth, this is not a sign of a real relationship. This is a sign that we are chasing the wrong person.
Love based on struggle usually brings more pain than happiness. And when you finally stop chasing, there will be room for that real, simple love that someone wants to give you. The love that is meant for you is not heavy, but refreshing, like a breath of fresh air.
Stop and ask: why am I hunting?
Before you get involved in a new relationship or continue an old one, ask yourself: Why am I chasing someone who doesn't appreciate me? What is it that I really need? Is it attention, love, or perhaps a need to feel self-worth? Once you discover what drives you to these hunting games, it will be easier to understand who you really need.
When you ask yourself what you really want out of a partnership, you'll be surprised how quickly new options open up for you—opportunities to connect with people who are there because they want to, not because you've caught them in your circle.
True love doesn't run away, you don't bother with it
True love will not force you to be on the lookout, to compete with others, to prove yourself, or to hide your true self. A true partner will accept you as you are. And when you stop chasing, you can really start loving.
