How many times have you loved someone who didn't know how to love you back? How many times have you tried, proven, waited, and hoped? And when was the last time you looked at yourself and asked yourself: why am I doing this? Why am I fighting for someone who doesn't know how to love me?
Why do you stay in relationships where you are invisible, where love hurts more and more? Maybe because you believe that someday this will change. Maybe because you are convinced that you have to give more to deserve it.
But sometimes the greatest victory is not in persisting, but in knowing how to walk away.
Maybe it wasn't that you loved too little - it was that you loved someone who didn't know how to love you back. You gave, but you remained empty. And when love turns into a battle where you lose yourself, it's time to ask yourself who you're really giving it to. And why.
It's not wrong to love deeply.
It is wrong when this love It only goes one way. When you give but don't get back. When you wait for someone who never quite gets to you. When you excuse every silence, ignore every cold look, and cover every painful gap with patience.
Love is not a request. It's not something you have to ask for, prove, or earn. If you have to constantly fight, then it's a fight, not a relationship. And in that fight, you're the one wearing the armor - without anyone attacking you at all.
You stay in a relationship where there's no love anymore because you're addicted to a possibility. To an idea you once heard. To a version of a person who only exists in your hopes. You love what could be – not what really is.
And in this illusion you get lost. You suppress what you really need. You withdraw to be more acceptable. You suffer silently because you believe that he will finally notice you. But someone who can't love you now - will never be able to love you. No matter how much you give.
What are you really looking for?
Sometimes you don't fight for a person - you fight for a feeling. To be enough. To finally deserve love. Maybe because you never received it unconditionally. Because you always had to do something to be worthy. And so now you're looking for confirmation in relationships that you're accepted for who you are - without having to prove anything.
But you're looking for that in the wrong place. You won't get true validation from someone who can't love you. And a love where you have to constantly give in, adapt, and carry the burden yourself will ultimately rob you of the very thing you were looking for in it - peace, connection, and security.
You stop fighting when you start hearing yourself.
When you no longer confuse pain with love. When you realize that leaving is not a defeat, but courage. The courage to stand up for yourself – even in front of those who never knew how to love you.
And when you really do it – when you say enough – you will finally realize that you were always trying to prove something that was never necessary. That the problem wasn't you. The problem was that you were fighting for someone who never knew how to love you.
That's when you stop asking someone to love you. That's when you choose yourself. And this is not the end of love – this is just its true beginning.
