"Man and woman are two banks of one river." - Claude de Rue
A man who plays will never completely push you away. In his mind, you are his second option. He will occasionally shower you with compliments. Don't make excuses for his behavior, but take action. Leave before you fall too much in love and it will only bring you constant pain.
What are the most common male game tactics?
Breadcrumbing
He occasionally sends you loving messages just to let you know he's still thinking about you. But he doesn't have time to meet you. He wants to stay single, but he enjoys your attention, so he leaves you a crumb every now and then so he doesn't lose you.
Benching (Reserve)
He talks to several women at once, choosing between them only when he realizes that there is no better opportunity. In his head, he moves you to a mental folder with the inscription "possible" and starts behaving like that towards you.
Stashing
Feeling like you're in a relationship but haven't met his friends or family yet? It protects your relationship from the public eye. He does this because he doesn't want you to be a part of his life.
Phubbing (Internet and phone are the center of his world)
Whenever you are together, he is attracted to a third party - his phone. Constantly looking at your phone clearly shows that it is more important to him than you.
What do men achieve with such tactics? They want you to be there for them whenever they want, and they want you to be the one to follow them.
Interestingly, they never do anything so drastic and rude that women might think: “This guy is not worth my time. I don't want to see him again". They know exactly to what extent they can keep you at a distance while giving you hope to believe that there is a possibility for a future together.
Why do men make themselves difficult to access?
There are several reasons for this, but they mainly relate to their binding styles.
Caring style represents those men who feel anguish when they feel that the person they love has distanced themselves from them.
Reliable style used by those men who trust their partner whether he is with them or not. People with this style have the healthiest and happiest relationships. They enjoy intimacy and are not bothered by the occasional distance.
Anxious style represents turbulent relationships. In such relationships, one of the partners pushes the other away, while the other tries to get closer to him in every way. This style creates a lot of drama.
Avoidance style those men live who feel the pressure when someone gets too close to them. They tend to play techniques. When they feel the need to protect themselves from pain or when they feel the need to be in control, they will play hard to reach.
What does this mean for you?
People with a dependable style do not play with other people's feelings, and playing games repels them. If a man calls out to you but immediately backs off when things get intense, recognize that you're dealing with a man who's playing the hard-to-reach card. Instead, find a person who enjoys being around you. Such a man will tell you what he thinks without you having to interpret his hidden signs. And only with such you can be happy. Love is so much easier when you don't have to play other people's games!
If the man you are seeing uses any toxic style, it is best to end any relationship with him because sooner or later he will hurt your heart and feelings.
