"Someone will love you the way you deserve. And every touch, every kiss, every word that will leave his lips will show you what you have been missing in your life until now."
It seems that between modern dating, romantic movies, and dating apps, we've decided that we demand too much from relationships. We looked at romantic comedies and clearly pointed out how unrealistic they are. We shared our hearts with others, and they ended up pushing us aside. We decided not to do this again. We've learned to present ourselves as calm, collected, and phlegmatic in hopes of attracting the attention of someone who makes our hearts go wild.
Of course, some things are actually unrealistic. No one expects our partner to completely give up their life just to spend time with us. Nor does anyone believe that it is necessary to make a big romantic gesture every day to confirm that love exists. No one expects a man to withstand all the emotional weight that life throws at him while maintaining a cool head. People are people, and we understand that they are some things a bit exaggerated.
And yet, at some point, we start to bury our expectations deep in the ground. We have taken things like basic human dignity and relegated them to a category labeled “above average requirements”. We decided that two messages in a row were too many. We believe that someone getting back to us is a sign of intrusiveness or even obsession. We say that too much affection is a strange thing. We go on dates and try to come off as someone who doesn't have much interest in the other person, we want to convey that these are not people who make our day or make us laugh. We try not to be put off by people who are clearly only partially interested in us, because asking for more would definitely be TOO MUCH!
But, please: you deserve someone who is passionate about you and isn't afraid to show it!
You deserve someone who isn't afraid to say they miss you when they really do, even though they only saw you yesterday. You deserve someone who is happy to hold your hand in public, not because they have to, but because they want to. You deserve someone who is not afraid to tell you that you are beautiful, that he is proud of you, that he loves you.
You deserve someone who recognizes what and who they have by their side. To know that you are an amazing human being, full of life, stories, adventures and love. That he realizes that you have brought something into his life that he has never experienced before and that he is privileged to know you so deeply and personally.
You deserve someone who goes above and beyond to show you what they feel. Someone who sticks by your side when things get tough because they think you're important. Someone who doesn't make you doubt how and what he feels, but finds a way to show you that he's absolutely crazy about you.
Because it's NOT TOO MUCH to ask someone in your life to be excited about you. He may mean the whole world to you, but you are also a world unto yourself that deserves to be admired by someone. No, he doesn't need to shout that he loves you, but he should realize that every new day with you is a wonderful thing. As excited as you are to hear him, see him, he should be too. He shouldn't play with you or make you doubt your self-worth. He shouldn't compare you to his previous relationships and pull away from you just because you're not like his exes. He should be able to take your hand in this moment, and all the things you will do together in the future, the memories you will make, the love you will share, the support and understanding you will give each other should to impress.
That doesn't mean he has to pretend, nor does it mean he has to be happy and smiling all the time. All of us have days when we are sad, angry, insecure and suffering. Then she shouldn't suppress her emotions just to make you feel better. But there is a difference between someone going through a rough patch and someone not putting any effort into the relationship. You can mix them up very quickly and come up with different excuses.
But eventually it becomes clear when someone is crazy about you and when they just tolerate you. It's obvious when someone is crazy about you and when someone doesn't care about your presence in their life.
You deserve more than that. You deserve a relationship with someone who will be there for you, who shows you new ways to be loved, someone who is excited to spend another day with you. Over creating memories together. You deserve someone who is passionate about loving you and you loving them.
You deserve someone who is simply infatuated with you. And period.
