When people are unhappy, it's much harder to be around them, let alone work with them. Unhappiness drives people away and creates a vicious cycle that prevents you from achieving all that you are capable of.
Your happiness is determined by your habits (in thought and action), so it's important to keep a close eye on them to make sure they don't drag you down the drain.
Some habits lead to unhappiness and self-destruction more than others. You should be especially careful with these 10 habits, as they pose the greatest danger. Take care of yourself and make sure these habits are not yours too.
They are constantly waiting for a better future
Because they are constantly waiting for the future to bring them something better, they miss living in the present. They say to themselves: "For once I will be happy...". But if they wait too long for things to fall into place or happen, they risk being dissatisfied for the rest of their lives, because that moment never comes.
It is not good to spend your time waiting because life is unpredictable and we cannot know how many days we have left. We need to take matters into our own hands and change what makes us unhappy in our lives. Sometimes it is enough to shift our thoughts from the bad to the good, so that positive things start to happen. People feel our energy and positivity will attract them.
They spend too much time on material goods
People who live modestly can feel happiness when their financial situation improves. However, this feeling will subside relatively quickly and happiness will depend on other things in life, things other than money and material goods.
Let's be happy for our hobbies, family, real friends and what is very important - for the sincere love of the partner we live with.
They stay at home and avoid others
People who feel unhappy tend to avoid others and prefer to be alone within their own four walls. But this is a big mistake, because with this they allow themselves to sink more and more into their darkness. A much better choice is hanging out with other people, as they almost always help you get negative thoughts out of your head.
Even if you don't feel like going out and socializing, force yourself to do it, just grab your jacket and get out of the house. A walk around the neighborhood, nature, etc. will also help.
They see themselves as victims
Unhappy people tend to convince themselves that they are victims, and that's how they present themselves to others, either through their words or their attitude. Life is a heavy cross for them to bear and over which they have no control. With this way of thinking, they destroy all possibilities of feeling happy from the start. They fall asleep to everyday life and try not to change anything. They have convinced themselves that they are powerless and behave that way.
All of us feel this way at some point. But not everyone gives in to this bad feeling, but gets up and does everything in their power to improve some things and thus feel better. In the end, they succeed because they really want to.
They are eternal pessimists
Nothing fuels the feeling of dissatisfaction like pessimism, and then it is impossible to see the beautiful things in life. Nothing good can happen to such people in life because they only expect bad things.
There is a saying that if you expect bad things to happen, they will happen to you. But if you think positive, positive things will happen to you. In addition, pessimists are very troublesome for the people around them, because they spoil their mood, so they are often avoided.
They are constantly complaining and whining
They are constantly whining, constantly complaining, someone is always to blame for something, etc. This is where their negativity comes to the fore, because for example they will not notice that someone brightened their day with some small thing, but they will only remember that something is not done the way they expected. And constant complaining is something that repels other people.
They will approach a negative individual full of optimism, but after a few minutes spent in his company, they will start to feel bad. They will not want to do it again the second time, but will bypass such a person in a big circle.
They exaggerate bad things
Bad things happen to all of us, the difference is that happy people see them as something temporary, while for unhappy people, it's something that will ruin their miserable life. For example, a happy person will look at it like this: "A few problems again, but luckily nothing serious." An unhappy person in the same situation will think: "This is proof that my day, week, month or even life is doomed."
They sweep problems under the carpet
Happy people are responsible for their actions. When they make a mistake, they admit it's their fault. On the other hand, unhappy people see their mistakes as a threat and prefer to sweep problems under the rug rather than see them and try to solve them.
They don't think that they can't avoid the problem and that it won't go away if they pretend it doesn't exist. Certain problems get worse over time if they are ignored. It is better to face them immediately, get rid of them, and only then forget that they exist.
They don't try to improve anything in life
Unhappy people are pessimists who feel they have no control over their lives. Therefore, they prefer to stand still and not try to change anything in order to feel better and be happy. They act as if they have surrendered to fate.
In order to get out of this situation, you should set certain goals, strive for them or learn something new. It can be small things – like deciding to lose five kilos, save some money, learn to knit…
They are jealous of others
Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, as is constant comparison with others - you are more successful, happier, prettier, richer, etc. Therefore, if unhappy people want to be happy, they must get rid of this habit and understand that we are all different people. A positive attitude towards yourself is a good way to feel satisfied and happy.
