Love should always be a two-way street!
Sometimes people want to be loved so much that they are ready to do anything for their partner and forget about themselves. Psychologists warn that one-sided relationships can greatly affect a person's emotional and physical health due to constant stress and anxiety. If your inner voice warns you that something in your relationship is not as it should be, stop and critically evaluate this relationship.
Check out some of the warning signs that your partner isn't investing as much in your relationship as you are.
1. You always plan for both of you
If you don't text or call them, they won't contact you for days. And even then, their response will be lukewarm. You will have the feeling that you are a burden to them, that you are distracting them from something more important. You plan all of your dates because you feel that being together isn't enough for them.
You deserve someone who wants to be with you as you want to be with them. Don't forget your worth.
2. You feel like you don't really know your partner
They never fully open up to you. They don't want to tell you about their past. They are not asking for your opinion or asking for your advice. Your conversations are usually very superficial and you feel like you are talking to a random acquaintance. How do you plan to spend the rest of your life with this person if you don't know their true character?
3. You are afraid of being alone
Do you often feel that you cannot share your problems with your partner or that you always play a role in your relationship? Most likely, in your intention to please them, you have found some middle ground in your personality and mood that appeals to them. And you don't deviate from it because you are afraid of losing them. If you are sad or vulnerable around them, they will immediately get upset or leave you.
Never forget that they don't deserve you when you're happy if they're not there for you when you're down.
4. You put their needs before your own
When you are together, you only do what they want. They choose movies, restaurants, they don't care about your interests. Eventually, you begin to accept their personality and tell yourself that what they want to do is always acceptable to you. No, don't do that. If a person truly loves you, they will support you and do things with you that you choose!
5. You defend their behavior
Do you ever feel uncomfortable about your partner's behavior in front of friends or family? Do you see your true partner's reflection in the eyes of people close to you? Think you feel sorry for them, so you want to prove them wrong? Why do you feel that way? Try talking to your friends, sometimes an independent opinion can put you on the right track.
6. You constantly feel emotionally drained
Planning day in and day out is exhausting. You are stressed, giving and giving without getting anything in return. You think you might finally get something in return by planning an amazing weekend getaway or giving them the gift they've always dreamed of. And when it never happens, you feel disappointed.
Basically, you're giving yourself away for a partner who wouldn't spend even 5 minutes of his time on you to make you feel special.
7. You are afraid of upsetting them in any way
You feel insecure in your relationship. You walk around your partner like eggs. You are afraid of saying the wrong thing or of upsetting them. Ask yourself why you cling so tightly to the things that upset you? Talk about your relationship. Trust each other in what matters to you.
8. You feel like you have to apologize, even though you don't have to
Do you often feel guilty and don't know why? Does your partner turn every conflict against you? Have you ever apologized for being too emotional? Or because you wanted to confide in them your problems? Did they tell you not to bother them with it? Then it's not a healthy relationship. Equal partners don't behave like that.
9. You constantly doubt yourself
If you're in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like you're constantly doubting yourself (your looks, your knowledge, your laugh...), then you're with the wrong person. You shouldn't just live to meet your partner's expectations, because if they feel let down, that's their problem.
True love is when you find someone who makes you see that there was never anything wrong with you.
10. You're afraid to leave because you've already invested so much in them
You know deep down that this relationship isn't right for you, but you don't want to break up with this person because you've invested so much of your time and effort into them. Instead, think of it this way - the longer it goes on, the more lost you'll be.
Don't think of time with them as "lost" or "wasted time." Think of it as a learning opportunity. Next time you will know your worth and find exactly what you need to be happy. You only honor your past self in such a way as to liberate your future self.
