Of all the mistakes in partner relationships, infidelity is the one that few can forgive. Whether it is infidelity in a relationship or a marriage, the consequences are equally painful.
Loyalty is the basis of every relationship. And although sometimes couples will try to make amends by jumping over the fence, many times this leads to great agony and living in the shadow of past events. Suspecting your partner's infidelity triggers a variety of reactions - from anger to sadness - but when you calm down a bit and start thinking realistically, you can understand your feelings and the reasons for your partner's infidelity. Louella Vaz, an expert on partner relationships, has compiled a list of key moments that lead to infidelity, or point to it.
1. He works more and more late into the evening
It sounds like a cliché, but it's true. As soon as your partner suddenly says that he will not come home late at night because he has too much work, and you know that he is not in the habit, ask him why that is. If his answers are rude and insulting, he can defend himself because he knows he is guilty. Maybe it's adultery.
2. He doesn't want you to call him when he's at work
This is a continuation of the first reason for suspicion of infidelity. Of course, there are people who do not want to make personal calls at work, because they have a dynamic profession and distractions are not desirable. However, if your husband or wife suddenly changes their behavior, it may be because they are having an affair with a co-worker, so they don't want you to bother them on the phone.
3. Ask him complicated relationship questions and you'll get a clear answer
Do you get answers that sound like your partner is defending himself against something? Although each of us is our own person and deserves privacy, in love we expect complete commitment and sincerity. If he behaves strangely when dealing with complex questions about infidelity, you have reason to be suspicious.
5. Unusual expenses
If you notice that your partner has started spending more money than usual, try to find out where the money went. If it's gifts or motel bills, that's probably jumping the fence.
6. A smell that is unfamiliar to you
Have you hugged him after coming home and he smells like an unfamiliar perfume? This is somehow a sign that he had close physical contact with someone.
7. Sudden increased concern for appearance
A constant preoccupation with physical appearance is also a sign that he wants to make the best possible impression on someone. Why is this a sign of infidelity? Over time, people in more serious relationships tend to be less concerned about their appearance.
8. Exhibit number 1
Traces such as hair, lipstick, glitter, powder on his clothes are often the most physical evidence of infidelity.
10. Sexual problems
A boring and predictable sex life is often the reason for infidelity. And if you have a dry spell, you have reason to worry. Keep in mind that sometimes we are all tired or burdened with problems, but if these situations keep happening, talk to your partner. Sex is like food. Without it, your or his basic needs will not be met.
11. Hiding
Sudden secrecy can certainly be a worrying sign, especially if the relationship was honest and open. Add to that the hiding of the smartphone and it doesn't bode well.
Even though you think it can't happen to you, you should consider the larger set of signs above as a danger. And become attentive. As in other relationships in life, honesty is the key to a successful relationship, and before you start looking for the truth, make sure you have enough reasons and arguments to discuss with your partner.
