On first dates, a storm rages inside you. Fear. Excitement. Hope. Self-confidence. You have a limited time to make a first impression. If it's not good, there's a chance your story is over before it even begins.
There is no instruction book on how to win someone over and how you should approach them.
Sometimes it's good and easier to know what not to do on a date than to think about what you should do.
And what are those things?
1. Being late
If you're going to be five or ten minutes late and let the person waiting for you know in advance, then you probably won't give the wrong impression. But if you're going to be late for 20 minutes, half an hour, or even longer, and if you don't inform the person with whom you made an appointment about the delay, then she'll probably think that you're irresponsible, frivolous, or that you simply don't care about her or him.
2. Rudeness to other people
If you're irritable and insult people who come near you, that's not a recipe for dating again.
3. You don't ask
Asking questions means engagement. If you don't ask questions, the person next to you will assume that you are not interested. If you are shy or not sure what to ask, prepare questions in advance.
4. Flirting
One of the mistakes that will almost certainly get you out of your second date is looking behind passers-by or flirting with other people of the opposite sex.
5. Talking about exes
Avoid self-talk about exes unless asked directly. It will just look like you haven't moved on. But if you do, say something nice and change the subject.
6. Drunkenness
Nobody likes drunks. There's nothing wrong with relaxing a little in the right company once in a while. Stumbling, throwing up are not the virtues anyone is looking for in the opposite sex.
7. Disinterest
If you spend most of your time on your phone texting during a date, you will definitely give the impression that you are bored and disinterested. Therefore, if you are worried about work, if you are constantly being called from the office because some work matters must be arranged by the evening, then tell the person you are with openly. Believe me, if the person you just dated is understanding, they will give you another chance.
8. Neglect
If you arrive on a date in torn or smelly clothes. If you smell like sweat, it's not attractive at all, it's repulsive. If you think this is a conquest tactic, you are very wrong.
9. Talk about the ideal partner
No way, don't start this thread. You will scare them.
10. Talking too much
Are you naturally talkative and always have a lot to say to your interlocutor? Or in moments when you are uncomfortable and awkward, you talk an incredible amount? If you don't let the person you're with have a word and repeatedly interrupt them mid-sentence, then you probably won't make the best impression. People like to be heard.
11. Instant use of love declarations
Even if the date goes incredibly well and you feel that the attraction is mutual, avoid calling the person immediately after the date and writing love messages.
12. You are overconfident
You don't have to describe all your strengths and weaknesses on a first date. Modesty is attractive; overconfidence is not.
13. Jokes about how bad you are at dating
If you mention on the first date that you don't find yourself dating and how relationships fail over and over again. Destroy any interest the other person might have in you.
14. Brag about your income, possessions or skills
Bragging generally out. This includes, for example, a discussion about how much you paid for your new ski equipment or that you always travel first class, etc...
15. Discussing politics
There's a reason you shouldn't discuss politics or religion on a first date, if you have strong opinions or beliefs it's easy to get upset. Be careful when discussing something you feel passionate or angry about.
If you can avoid these common first date mistakes, you may finally find the man/woman of your dreams and all the stress of first dates will be a thing of the past!
