The Difference Between Instant Infatuation and Lasting Love: Here are 3 in-depth questions to help you understand where you stand. Are you in love or in love?
Are you in love or in love? Some say it is love is blind, and in fact it can become visible if we know how to ask the right questions. Love is not something, which we would be taught in school, but is crucial for ours life. So how do you know if your love is real and long-lasting? How to distinguish between feeling in love and truly loving someone?
When they first appear butterflies in the stomach, it is difficult to distinguish between a momentary crush and a love that has the potential for a long-term relationship. However, the following questions can help you understand where you are right now in your love story.
Do you want them by your side or do you only want the best for them?
When we're in love, a wave of happy brain chemicals wash over us, making us addicted to the presence loved ones. But when we truly love someone, without interference or attachment, the prevailing feeling is that we only want the best for that person. True love is selfless and serves the person we love on all levels.
Is your love "peak and valley" or "slow growth over time"?
Research has shown that "passionate love" peaks in the first 6-12 months of a relationship and then declines rapidly, while "social love" only grows over time. Do you notice your love fading or growing over time?
Will you stop loving a person when the chemistry wears off? Will you always love and support that person whether you are with them or not?
If you feel a more grounded, persistent love that will always be there whether you're arguing, in the same room, or even in a relationship with another person, then it's likely that you truly love.
"Where there is love, there is home" goes the old saying, and that home can also be where the person we love can't or won't love us back. True love liberates. It helps a loved one become more alone than they have ever been before. It encourages her to be authentic, away from masks, thoughts burdened with "should" and compromises.
The first months of a new relationship can be like a wild ride on the death train. Everything spins until we are spat out gasping for air. After the period of initial infatuation is over, you can consider with clearer eyes whether you want to continue the relationship. At the end of the day, your heart is and always will be the ultimate expert on all the decisions you have to make. So listen to him. He knows the answer to every question you have.
The next time you think about love, think about these three questions. They may help you understand where you stand and empower you to make the decisions you need to make. Because true love, the one that survives through time, is truly something special. It is worth seeking out, understanding and nurturing.
Remember: Love is not always easy, but it is always worth the effort.
