Even the best parents sometimes make a mistake and say something thoughtless. Did you know that your words can leave a deep emotional mark on a child without you even realizing it.
If you compare your children to their siblings or yourself, based on when you were their age, you are sending them the message that they are not good enough.
When dealing with children, it is important to send them messages that they are good enough as they are, that you believe in them and that you love them no matter what and that you will always be there for them.
Words can leave deep wounds on them, even if they seem harmless to you, your words can hurt them emotionally and leave consequences, because the child absorbs these words and builds an image of himself on them.
Let's look at some such phrases:
"If you don't stop, I'll leave you here!"
Bullying children by letting them get what they want is not a means to an end. Careful parents will not use it. The child must know and be sure that the parent will never leave him.
"Why aren't you like your brother or sister?"
No one likes to be compared to others in a negative context. This is how complexes are formed.
"Why? Because I say so. That's why!”
Children also deserve an explanation.
"Leave it, I'll do it!"
Children need to learn to rely on their own strengths and abilities in order to gain self-confidence.
Expressions you should say to children: You are enough just the way you are. I believe in you. I love you no matter what. I will always be here for you.
Build a healthy relationship with your child to show him that no one is perfect, but that mistakes can be corrected, that love and your good relationship still exist.
