New relationships are uncomfortable at times. And old, pleasant memories creep into your mind.
Have you ever driven past his/her house or work? Were you led there by some unknown force? There's nothing wrong with reminding yourself of him or her from time to time. And here are 5 reasons why you might miss your ex even when you're in a healthy relationship.
1. You miss the comfort of the familiar
You would prefer to skip the initial dates and proceed as if you have been with this person for at least two years, when everything is comfortable. With your ex-partner, you knew exactly how things would go - how he behaves, what he doesn't like, what he likes, what coffee he drinks...
In a new relationship, even if it has been going on for a while, you may still not be as comfortable as before, which makes you remember your ex and your routines again. You miss the security you used to feel. So, maybe you don't miss your ex so much as the comfort you felt with someone you knew very well.
2. You miss the things you used to share
You think about your experiences together. Of the memories and feelings they evoke. Hear your laugh. Long conversations over coffee, trips... But you have the impression that it was all perfect. Think about it. Remember. It was not.
3. You miss what was good
Remember, an ex is an ex for a reason, but so is someone you fell in love with. And that means there was some good, too.
When you miss your ex, do you remember what they were like when you first met? Or how they talked all night? When you break up with someone, the things that made you fall in love with them don't cease to exist. They still exist in your memory and you will miss them.
4. You forgot the past
Remember only the good things you shared. But you forgot about the past and all the bad, difficult moments that led to the breakup. Maybe he was jealous, possessive... Don't forget the painful moments of the past when you think about your ex-partner.
5. You miss your past self
The reason you may still miss your ex is because you may miss the person you were in that relationship. Relationships bring out the best and worst in you. And in the moments when you were happy with him, you felt safe and loved. Fall in love with the person you are now!
Let's look at an interesting comparison of old and new ice cream flavors. Let's say you've always loved chocolate ice cream. And then all the chocolate ice cream in the world disappears and you can only eat vanilla ice cream. You discover you love vanilla ice cream! Would this love of vanilla ice cream erase the love you once had for chocolate ice cream? No! It was something that you were used to and that made you feel comfortable. You loved eating it. The flavor was really good, although the chocolate didn't go well with the caramel topping.
When we eat ice cream, we love the child inside us - the child we need to get in touch with more often. So, if you still miss your ex, that's okay! We all do it, one way or another. The key is not to let this ruin your new relationship.
This person is your ex for a reason, and if hell hasn't frozen over, that reason probably hasn't changed!
