Are you overly patronizing in your relationship? Do you worry too much about your partner? Are you covering up his mistakes and sweeping them under the rug?
It's normal to want to take care of your partner, but there's a fine line between taking care of your partner and taking care of a child.
Let's look at five signs that indicate that you are acting like a mother and not like a partner in a relationship.
1. Arguments do not lead to a solution
Arguments are an integral part of any relationship, but it's important to resolve them in a constructive way and that they lead to a positive outcome. If they end unsuccessfully, you will only feel anger and rage. Remember what your arguments with your parents were like as a child or in your teenage years. Your arguments with your partner should be the opposite, as your roles are also different. They are equal partners in the relationship.
2. Clean up after him
Do you constantly watch him do what he does and clean up after him? Stop it! Whether it's the crumbs of food that fall on his table or the pile of clothes he threw on the floor: his partner must realize that he is the one who has to clean up after himself.
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3. Making excuses and excuses for it
You usually want to see your partner in the best light and defend their decisions. But the constant need to make excuses and justify bad behavior that has been going on for quite some time will not improve your relationship. In a partnership, there is no need for maternal protection, but for encouraging the partner to take responsibility for his behavior.
4. You control it
There are people who have a strong desire for control. In a partnership, such control indicates that you do not trust your partner. Confide in him about your control issues and let him make some decisions too. If you don't let him do that, it will have a bad effect on your relationship.
5. You complain all the time
No one likes constant complaining, especially not the person who has to listen to it. Constructive communication is necessary, even if there is a person with you who behaves like a child. You are adults, so make an effort and behave accordingly.
Don't let someone, even if it's a partner you love, treat you in a way you're not comfortable with.
There is always a solution: not a breakup, but honest communication!
