We all want healthy, loving relationships that fill us with confidence and drive for the future. And yet - sometimes it happens that we find ourselves in a relationship that awakens opposite feelings in us. A codependent relationship is an unhealthy relationship in which two partners are completely dependent on each other and find it difficult to function independently - or one partner relies on the other for every part of their life. We have prepared for you 5 signs that you are in a codependent relationship.
1. You can't set boundaries in a relationship
Borders are extremely important in every relationship, from romantic to platonic, and from family to business. They allow us to let's set for ourselves and to let the other person know clearly what you are about we won't allow it and what kind of behavior we have affect.
The property of interdependent relationships is that the boundaries are practical do not exist. If you notice that in your desire to keep your partner, you allow much more, as you would like, this is by no means a good sign. You should know that you are you earn a person who will be your desires and boundaries respected and she herself wanted you to feel as comfortable as possible in the relationship relaxed and satisfied. Yes, if you don't set boundaries, your partner might really remained beside you, but they will be united in a relationship that she will not be healthy not for you, not for him.
Are you noticing that your boundaries are being broken? Photo: Cottonbro / Pexels2. You notice a power imbalance
They are partners in a healthy relationship equal. That means that they make decisions together and at each other's conversations they are listening and take into account.
When we talk about a codependent relationship, this it upsets the balance. A person who feels complete from their partner it depends, she will allow him to have the last word always he and let that controls all parts of her life. This is by no means right: you must know that your wishes, opinions and visions equally important as a partner's and that there is no reason why they should not expressed.
3. You absolutely need your partner's approval
It is completely normal for our partner to encourage us calm down and cheer up. However, be careful: or at each decisions, which you accept, you are looking for your partner confirmation? Can I his words they completely change yours opinion and mood? Do you think that without his of approval you didn't good enough? All these are signs of an interdependent relationship.
The same applies if it is situation reversed. There is nothing wrong with providing to your partner emotional support, but the problem arises if he practices conversations they spin around nonchalantly his problems and if he himself does not provide you consolation, which you give him.
Emotional support or codependency? Photo: Olya Kobruseva / Pexels4. They maintain negative behavior patterns together
It is also a feature of interdependent relationships that partners enable each other to continue with negative behavioral patterns. This means that are aware, yes yours life style or way of dealing with problems it is not healthy and does not lead to a bright future, and yet they do nothing to make it changed.
In a healthy relationship, partners to each other they help, to become the best version their personalities. It also means that you are with each other made clear, that certain behavior not suitable.
5. You have no life of your own
Also, if we are in a relationship, it is important to maintain independent version of yourself. That means we have own hobbies, goals and wishes, and also that the partner is not the only person with whom let's hang out. If we do not pay attention to this, there is a possibility that completely we lose our own identity, and the relationship eventually develops into interdependent.
You must remember that it is not right nothing wrong, if you spend some time separate from the partner and if they have different hobbies and interests. Not only will your relationship be stronger this way healthy, but they will also be different from each other learned many new things.
