"Man and woman are two banks of one river." - Claude de Rue
Instead of constantly pointing the blame at men and their actions, how about taking a step back and reevaluating your behavior? Women aren't perfect either - and sometimes they're just as guilty (if not more) than men.
Here are 5 things women need to stop blaming men for, because they are guilty of it themselves.
1. You don't know what you want from a relationship
No one likes the guessing game, but be honest, do you know what you want? You might say you want to be in a committed relationship, but hours later you'll be hanging out with your single friends and loving the fact that you're not committed to one person again.
The truth is, with all of your decisions, you determine what you want. Of course, it will hurt and hurt you if the man you like declares that he does not want a long-term relationship. Accept the fact that he is sincere and that he is not deceiving you to make you feel that there is more to your relationship than there really is.
2. Exploring other options
You browsed dating sites and found him on Tinder. What were you even looking for there? It doesn't make sense to expect a man to revolve only around you if you yourself are looking for other options. Are you afraid of committing to the wrong person? Are you just wondering:"What if someone better comes along?" You have a backup plan because your past experiences have taught you to be careful before you allow yourself to trust just one person. But you shouldn't get mad at men for doing the same.
3. Shutting down emotions
You don't understand why your man has suddenly become withdrawn or emotionally distant, but trying to drag things out of him won't change that. Men, on the other hand, perceive women in the same way, if they are a little more emotional. Because we don't understand each other, we act passive-aggressively and gradually make things worse. Ignorance or irritation, either, will not solve the problem.
Whether you or your man are upset about something, it's best to approach it rationally and go from there.
4. You are not in constant communication
There's nothing wrong with texting all day long—but when he doesn't respond to your text at lightning speed, it's all wrong. Are you irritated that he seems to forget about you when he's out with friends? Put yourself in the same situation. Are you on a ladies night, your man keeps texting you, or are you constantly on the phone? Pay less attention to messages in these situations.
5. He's not Prince Charming all the time
Are you always a charming princess? Embrace simplicity in your relationship and don't expect too much all the time. When you spend less time focusing on the "fairy tale", you will appreciate the relationship for what it is.
