Movies, books, magazines and other media sell us romantic stories at every corner, which we persistently fall for and long for. But the reality is COMPLETELY different. The moment you stop romanticizing certain things, you will be able to start living BETTER. Do you really want this?
Bad boys never love a woman it will not turn them into good people, finding love does not mean they will solved all your problems and beauty is not everything what counts. These are just a few of the things that you need to stop romanticizing…and you will be able to live a better life.
No one has experienced such a change of thinking and enlightenment overnight... but it is the first step towards liberation awareness, what is the gulf between ideas, which you get from movies, magazines, books, media on one side and reality on the other.
5 things you need to STOP romanticizing... and you will live a BETTER life:
1. The idea of unfulfilled love
The media (of all forms) know that the myth of unrequited love sells far better than love with a happy ending. If you feed yourself with such content day after day, month after month and for several years in a row, then this idea you internalize.
And you blindly begin to believe that it is unrequited love something romantic and constant pain is something that comes at the price of love. But the reality is different! Unrequited love is a "normal" part of life and it happens to everyone at least once. That's exactly why it is there is no point in glorifying it … or persist in it!
![The glorification of unattainable love is the work of Sisyphus.](https://e7852c3a.rocketcdn.me/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/giphy-33.gif)
2. Celebrating sociopathy and psychopathy
Movies use sociopathic and psychopathic characters to their advantage, and then transform them into infinity charming and attractive personalities. Examples are countless - from Cumberbatch in Sherlock, Mikkelsen in Hannibal to Gyllenhaal in Nightcrawler.
In real life, sociopaths and psychopaths are often dangerous individuals who have a myriad of problems…and harm individuals.
3. The idea of loneliness
Loneliness is often romanticized in the media - isolated personalities are special, nobody understands them and therefore they are somewhat exalted above the rest of the people. In movies and books, they often meet another special and lonely person and everything "falls into place".
In real life, loneliness can be a serious problem that is linked to a myriad of psychological and medical problems.
![Loneliness is actually a serious problem that causes health problems.](https://e7852c3a.rocketcdn.me/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/giphy-42.gif)
4. The idea of bad guys who change
The archetypal story of a bad boy who is transformed into a good prince with the help of endless devotion and unimaginably pure love, goes back a long way in history - appears in children's fairy tales, almost every "beach literature" and even higher quality classical works of art.
The truth is that in real life, bad and harmful people who control and limit the freedom of others do not REALLY change because of love. In what way is the archetype of the sinister boy who is saved by the love of a girl and why is this harmful, can be viewed in video below!
5. The idea of psychological problems
In addition to movies and books, psychological problems are also romanticized on various social platforms - being depressed or having an eating disorder is not romantic, and in our society it is often presented as "COOL". There is also nothing nice about certain people pretending to have psychological problems in order to achieve some secret purposes.