If you dream of a happy long-term partnership, you must realize that it requires a lot of effort. Not just yours or your partner's, but mutual. Perfection only exists in romance books and movies. You know that, right? Are you ready to be by each other's side even when the butterflies disappear?
Living together brings ups and downs. Misunderstandings, quarrels. Every good relationship is based on honest communication. It is important to listen and hear.
In a long-term relationship, there will be a lot of love, laughter, happiness, but also arguments, disagreements and sleepless nights. It all makes up a mosaic of your and your partner's life together. Without one there would be no other and vice versa.
For many, reality is too much and they are not ready to put effort, time, trust or respect into a partnership.
Let's see what you will learn over the years of partnership.
1. The passion will disappear
At times you will remember the first meeting, falling in love, excitement, butterflies in the stomach. Obsessions from each other. Naughty and love-filled messages. Those crazy emotions that took you to the clouds and tears when you sometimes fell through.
All this will slowly disappear, but it will remain - love - sincere, pure and solid. Every partnership should be such that you feel good in it. Stable and calm. Full of warmth and love. And not uncertainty. Uncertainty is never good for you or your relationship.
2. Life together is not always full of happiness
It's never just the sun, there are also clouds, rain, snow. As with the weather, so also with relationships, not everything is always nice and sunny. The fact is that there will be ups and downs in your relationship.
You will be visited by bad feelings, boredom, anger, resentment, resentment, stubbornness and many other uncomfortable feelings - be aware of this. And it is in such moments that the strength of your relationship is shown - in the ability to overcome such situations.
3. A woman must not put herself in second place
Even in such a busy day, he can still find time for himself. Time dedicated only to her, not to her husband, not to her children. Her time. Time for coffee, for reading, for dancing... Whatever you want and need - for yourself.
It won't always be easy, but together you can do anything! Photo: Hanna Morris/UnsplashAfter all, if a woman or a man sacrifices everything for the good of his family, eventually he becomes dissatisfied. So, never, ever forget yourself and your moment of the day when you sing and dance at the top of your lungs.
4. Intimacy is an important part of love, but it is not the most important
After a few years of dating, intimacy will no longer be as passionate as it was in the initial stages of falling in love, nor will it be as frequent. Understanding, respect, relaxation, trust, deep, sincere love appear in this part of relationships.
Intimacy will not disappear, but will be revealed in all its glory as you become more relaxed. The relationship becomes gentler and full of small attentions.
5. Decisions should be made together
Not the small ones, those big decisions that affect your life together. For example, how to raise a child, where to go on vacation, do you need a new car...
The most important thing that can help you have a long and happy marriage is the desire to compromise, listen and hear each other. In that both partners take time for themselves and each other.
Partners are people who have common values, share a common vision for their future, see a common path that they will follow, and will be able to sacrifice something, give up something for it - such people are on the right path to a long-term successful partnership.
