Why do women jump the fence?
For the online portal Mind Body Green, sexuality expert Tammy Nelson stated and explained the eight most common reasons why women cheat on men.
Because of sex
"Women appreciate good sex just as much as men do. They tend to cheat on their partners when they meet someone who turns them on,” says Nelson, adding that the "stereotype" that men cheat for sex and women for feelings is not true. This was also confirmed by a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research, which shows that sex is one of the three most common reasons why women cheat.
Dissatisfaction with the relationship
The same study found that women cheat when they stop being in love with their partner. Although there is still love, a woman who is not satisfied with the relationship is more likely to cheat on her partner. Sometimes, due to various problems (family, financial, etc.), she thinks that an affair will bring her what she failed to get from her partner. "Women cheat when they cool down. If their relationship with their partner is strained or boring, they will be tempted to seek excitement elsewhere.” adds Nelson.
Because they made a mistake
"We all make mistakes. Sometimes cheating also happens because an opportunity presented itself, the woman impulsively took advantage of it, but later regretted it." explains the expert. Sometimes there is no deeper reason for cheating than that it just happened.
They want intimacy
Be it physical or emotional, the need for intimacy is something we all want to fulfill. If a woman does not feel emotionally fulfilled in her relationship and someone else offers her such intimacy, an attraction will develop between her and that person. Some older research suggests that a woman will develop a stronger emotional connection with the person she cheats on than a man.
The new person makes them feel special
Sometimes people cheat because someone new makes them feel special or that person makes them feel different. "Some women admit that a lover makes them feel special, sexy and loved, and such attention is hard to ignore, regardless of what kind of partner is waiting for them at home," emphasizes Nelson.
Because of low self-esteem
Psychologist Margaret Paul explains that people with low self-esteem often seek validation that they are valuable. If they don't get it from their current partner, they can look for it from someone else. "We often see that people cheat when they don't know how to take responsibility for themselves, when they don't care about their own feelings and when they don't know how to develop the ability to stand up for themselves in a relationship. Because they neglect themselves, they need the attention of another person." said Paul.
They forget about problems
Cheating can be a sign that something is wrong with the woman or the relationship. Paul here compares deception to alcohol or drugs. Such behavior is a way for a woman to avoid feelings or problems instead of facing them.
Because they want a breakup or a change
Sometimes people also cheat because they want their relationship to end and find it easier than telling their partner directly that they want to break up. But Nelson points out that sometimes it also happens because people want to change something in their marriage or relationship. "Women sometimes cheat to get out of a marriage, and sometimes to stay in it," concludes the sex expert.
