Raising children is anything but easy work. As parents, we only want the best for our children, but by doing so we unconsciously do them a disservice.
If you're a parent yourself, then you know it is child raising anything but simple. Everyone has their own educational methods, their own approaches. These are often based on what we ourselves were given in childhood.
Early life experiences are crucial for the development of psychologically healthy individuals, so it is right to be aware of mistakes and consciously deal with them. A psychologist Ronald E. Riggio In an article published on Psychology Today, he presented four types of parenting that parents do their children no favors with.
1. Punitive parenting
Authoritarian parenting is characterized by strict adherence to rules and a great deal of control and dominance over the child. The use of punishment is especially harmful. As an educational strategy, this is simply not effective, what's more, it can even be psychologically harmful for the child. As a result, children may develop negative emotions such as fear, anger and guilt. Living with constant punishment if we don't do something right can lead to pain or stress. In addition, punishment does not work to encourage children to engage in desirable behavior, it only teaches them to avoid bad behavior. This can even lead to anger or resentment.
2. Helicopter parenting
Parents who intensively monitor their children's behavior and hover over them are known as "helicopter parents". They make decisions for the children and try to protect them from the consequences. They are overly protective - they do not allow the child to make decisions and act independently. Numerous studies have shown that helicopter parenting harms a child's leadership potential and leads to low self-esteem in children and an over-reliance on parents.
3. Independent parenting
The parenting attitude "everything is allowed" can be the result of parents who are a little "fussy" about their upbringing, as well as overly indulgent parents who indulge their child's every whim. There is practically no child rearing. Parents who neglect their children let them grow up watching TV or YouTube all the time. They also do not set limits for children, so only they know how to follow them. These children tend to lack self-control and have a major deficit in communication skills. Children who are pampered by their parents by never saying "no" also develop poor self-control and a sense of entitlement.
4. Inconsistent parenting
Parents who are inconsistent in their parenting—sometimes responsive, warm, and supportive, other times cold and insensitive—send mixed signals to the child. This can cause uncertainty and excessive worry in the child. In many cases, children of inconsistent parents show the same pattern of inconsistency—alternating warm and cold—in their adult interpersonal relationships.
