You masturbate a lot, maybe that's all you need?! Then you have entered the path of autosexuality, which can also be dangerous - especially if you are in a relationship with a partner. Autosexuality is a trend which, due to reduced social interactions, is on the rise.
Autosexuality is one of the gender identities that is on the rise. And it indicates a sexual attraction to oneself, which is reflected in a preference for masturbation over normal intercourse. If your relationship with yourself also includes romantic feelings towards yourself, this gender identity is called autoromanticism.
The term autosexual may not be as common as some of the other words we use to describe our sexual orientation, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Kourtney Kardashian introduced the term into wider cultural parlance when her website Poosh posted a short example on the subject. In recent times, autosexuality has been popularized as a trend and a matter of debate, as the COVID situation has forced many to engage in this type of behavior.
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What does autosexual really mean?
In short, an autosexual person is someone who is sexually attracted to themselves, either much more than others or to the exclusion of other people. Autosexuality is therefore a term that covers a spectrum of desires. To be an autosexual means to derive a lot of pleasure from one's own body and body to such an extent that this type of person will no longer be available to others. Even people who do not identify as autosexual may exhibit some autosexual behaviors. For example, they prefer to pleasure themselves rather than have sex with their partners.
"Autosexuality is a natural and healthy expression and aspect of erotic desire," says dr. Jamie Gayle, who is a clinical psychologist and CEO of Intraspectrum Counseling. "It should not be confused with autoromanticism, although both can be present together."
One of the misconceptions is that if someone is autosexual, it means that they are incapable of loving and desiring other people. This is absolutely not true! A large number of autosexuals have romantic and sexual relationships with others. It just means that their most intense attraction is reserved for themselves. They are still able to get into relationships with others.
5+ Signs You're Autosexual
1. You prefer masturbation to sex
Although you may enjoy sex with another person, you know that your strongest orgasms and deepest satisfaction are solo endeavors. So, if you find that masturbation turns you on much more than stimulation from your partner, this may be one of the obvious signs that you might be autosexual.
2. You use fantasies about yourself during sex to reach orgasm
When you're in bed with someone, you're thinking about yourself and your body, and you can't really get into sex without seeing each other in your mind.
3. Think about yourself when you masturbate instead of watching porn
The main role in your self-pleasuring fantasies is always you. You can focus on thoughts about your body, smell, or mind. Jps… you are very autosexual.
4. You prioritize pleasure and spending quality time with yourself over dating
Even if you are offered the opportunity to go out socially, you will be more tempted by the thought of a night out with yourself. If you are starting to avoid relationships, then this is a sign that you are self-sufficient and can be autosexual.
5. You love having sex in front of the mirror
Do you like to see each other during sex? Have you ever filmed yourself masturbating? Do you like watching yourself in the mirror during sex? Then this can be one of the signs for autosexuality.
Perhaps the most important thing to know is that autosexuality is completely normal and not pathological. However, like any sexuality, it can affect a person's life and overall satisfaction when overdone. This is also why autosexuals need people around them who will understand them and guide them in their direction. Outside the bubble of autosexuality.
