All you want is for someone to love you with all their heart, to make you a priority for them, as they are for you.
You don't want to waste your time with someone who doesn't see you as a priority. You don't want to do everything in your power to make them happy if they aren't willing to make the same effort to love you.
Here are some signs that you are just a backup to him, not a priority, and that you deserve much more than that.
Whenever he is with you, he acts distant
They may not be focused on the other person, but they are focused on their phone. Messages. On your own thoughts and daydreams.
Remember that it's not enough just to show up physically, they should also be there emotionally. You shouldn't feel like they are miles away. They shouldn't make you feel like they'd rather be anywhere else than by your side.
The right person will be 100% present when they are with you because they will not want to miss a single moment with you.
He asks you out on a date only at the last second
They come to you when they have exhausted all other options. When they realize that their other friends and potential partners are busy and you're the only one who hasn't turned them down.
Remember that the right person will make time for you. They will work with you to make plans days or weeks in advance. Someone who sees you as a backup plan will only contact you at the last possible second.
It is inconsistent with its communication
If they wanted to be with you, they would check up on you often. They would let you know they care about you. If they show up every once in a while just to shower you with compliments and then disappear off the face of the planet again, you know you're not their priority.
If they were a priority, then they wouldn't have left. They wouldn't leave you wondering what happened to them and if they still feel the same way since they last met and talked.
He puts more effort into others than into you
If they're always texting other people when they're with you, but rarely texting you, then they're clearly not interested in you, just like they're not interested in the person on the other end of the phone. They obviously don't pay as much attention to you as they do to other people in their lives.
And if they won't give you their whole heart, you shouldn't give them yours either.
He is always flirting with others, regardless of whether you are around them
If they wanted to be with you, they would make you feel special. They would make you feel valued. Flirting with other people means they are not 100% committed to being with you. This means that they will not give you the loyalty and devotion that you deserve. Leave!
