When we dream of a magical love story, we usually first think of the spark that ignites when we first see our partner. This then, if all goes according to luck, develops into a match and we live happily ever after with our chosen one. But how is it in real life - is this spark or chemistry really that important or should we prioritize matching our values and personalities? We asked what the experts think.
Some couples claim they already are knew from the beginning, that they have found the right one, i.e. the person they want to stay with. Others think a little differently: they are sure that true love it only begins when it approves of a person we get to know and find out what his are values, views of the world and goals for the future. Still others claim that it is necessary for a long-term relationship a mixture of both, therefore chemistry and compatibility. But what do these terms actually mean?
Difference Between Chemistry and Compatibility
Chemistry each individual experiences a little otherwise, but it is most easily defined by focusing on feelings, which take us over at the first few meetings. These can be so-called butterflies in the stomach, feeling desires upon eye contact and the mixture passions, nervousness and luck.
What is it compatibility or matching and how does it differ from chemistry? First of all, we must emphasize that compatibility can only be judged after a certain time. It's not just because we can't the person really get to know in just a few dates, but also because we see a potential partner at the beginning of the relationship in ideal light, which is slightly different from the real thing. Compatibility means that the person we accept exactly as she really is and that you are with her we share values, thinking and goals for the future.
What is most important in a relationship?
Experts say it's best to feel it a mixture of both. However, at the same time they warn that you no need to give up, if you haven't felt the chemistry. Many people will tell you that in the beginning they didn't care about their partner no romantic or sexual feelings, but over time it completely did changed. Many people feel the chemistry only when fall in love with your partner's personality. You must not forget that the healthiest relationships are said to develop from good friendships.
However, there is no need to you feel guilty, if the relationship is due to a lack of chemistry leave it. People are different from each other and only you can judge what is right for you in a relationship urgently.
But what if the chemistry is not lacking and the problem is in compatibility? In this case, we advise you that the relationship is very good think about it. You want a partner who will be in your life stood by and with whom you can be without arguments made decisions. At the same time, you must of course be aware of the person who will be with you agreed on everything, unfortunately you won't find it, so it's best to look at your differences with realistic angle.
In any case, we suggest that getting to know each other get started slow and don't let infatuation get to you blurred vision to what you have in a person the most important.
