"And finally I realized. I didn't ask too much, I just asked the wrong person.” - Unknown author
If you expect someone to reply to your message within a reasonable time, you are not asking too much. Your partner should consider you one of his priorities, even from a distance. He shouldn't forget you exist as soon as he leaves the common area. I shouldn't go into "ghosting" for days and expect you to still be jumping for joy when you see each other. You should work for your relationship even on those days when you can't see each other in person. A partner should ALWAYS be a good partner, not just temporarily and not just when he's in a good mood.
If you expect them to have deep, emotional conversations, you're not asking too much! Your conversations shouldn't just be about fun and superficial things and full of flirting. There will come times when you need to communicate about bigger, more complicated things. You can't be committed to a relationship without having an awkward conversation here and there. It's part of the relationship. You should feel that you can always turn to your partner and he will be there to listen to you.
If you expect him to fulfill what he promised you, you are not asking too much! Your partner should be consistent, reliable, trustworthy. If he has a habit of always disappointing you, then how can you accept anything he says as the truth? An unfulfilled promise to be a better partner tomorrow is one thing. But following through on that promise is another matter entirely. AND remember that actions speak louder than words.
If you expect him to remain faithful to you and your relationship, you are not asking too much. It shouldn't be too hard for him to stop flirting and staring at other people, he shouldn't follow them. I should want only you and only you! If he can't be faithful to you, he shouldn't be in a relationship. I shouldn't deceive you and make fun of you behind your back.
If you expect him to show you his love, you are not asking too much. You should have said those two little words. I should remind you that he doesn't care. Making you feel loved should be his mission. If you constantly wonder if he even cares, then he is not right for you, because such questions should not arise in a healthy relationship.
If you expect him to be there for you when you need him, you're not asking too much. He is supposed to be your "teammate", he is supposed to have your back. He shouldn't run away when things get complicated. I shouldn't have abandoned you and left you to face your problems alone. I should be there for you no matter what.
Don't let anyone convince you that you have "too high standards" when all he's looking for is a strong and stable relationship. You deserve more than just the "basics". You deserve a committed, loving relationship. You deserve everything you've ever hoped for!
And don't forget, there are two in a relationship! What you expect from your man, YOU have to give him too!
