Relationship Doubts You Should Never Ignore!

Even though you love your partner to the moon and back, you can still struggle with doubts at times. If you want to prevent relationships from falling apart, you need to eliminate your doubts and eliminate their causes. Don't wait for doubt and the resulting argument to knock on your door. Communicate before doubts overwhelm love.

Doubt is a natural part of the process

No matter who you are and no matter how long your relationship has been going on, doubts can arise from time to time. Some threaten your peace of mind and well-being more than others.

Running away from doubt won't solve anything. It is necessary to face yourself and the baggage of the past that you carry with you. You need to ask yourself what you want out of life and a partnership. Stop running away from questions and reach for understanding. This is the only way to the truth that both of you must recognize.

Where do the doubts come from?

Doubts are a natural process, they come and go, whether you're new to or in a long-term relationship. Every doubt has a cause, and those causes can often be just as important as the doubts.

• Stressful environment – the more stressful your life is, the more doubts you have.
• Unclaimed baggage – pain from the past plays an important role in your future, as it follows you from relationship to relationship. You need to heal the traumas of the past in order to have a healthy and stable relationship.
• External pressure - the strong influence of family, work, etc., can lead to serious doubts. To avoid them, you need to be clear about what you want as an individual.
• Seeking validation from others – are you someone who is always looking for validation from others? This is a sign of insecurity, but it can also become a cause of doubt in the relationship. The longer you seek validation from others rather than within yourself, the more changeable and unstable your inner self will become. You will doubt everything.
• Bad choice of partner - sometimes doubts are the subconscious mind's way of telling you that the relationship (and the person sharing it with you) is not right for you. Listen to your gut.

Doubts you shouldn't ignore

Are you still attracted to them?

One of the most common doubts in relationships is at the level of physical and emotional attraction. For a partnership to work in any long-term sense, both partners need to feel a general attraction.

Are you being humiliated?

If your partner makes fun of you when you're not around or embarrasses you with their behavior, then you need to deal with the doubts about them. Make sure if they are really the person you want in your life?

Are they faithful?

Jealousy or doubting the loyalty of a partner destroys a partnership. Without loyalty, it is difficult to trust your partner.

What if your values are too different?

Values shape you and lead you to the people and experiences that give your life meaning. You are without values, a ship without a rudder in a stormy sea. Doubting your partner's values is a warning sign that things may not be what they seem.

Do you want the same things?

If you have similar things in common, it's easier for you to overcome problems and be more focused on each other. If not, you find disappointment faster.

Are they honest?

Honesty is crucial in a partnership. They need to be honest with each other in order to trust and maintain loyalty. If you doubt someone, you cannot trust them.

How do you feel around them?

Your partners should pick you up and motivate you when you fall. Being compassionate and respectful. If your partner makes you feel small, inferior or otherwise unimportant - then doubts will quickly enter your life. First you will doubt yourself and sooner than later you will also doubt them.

What can you do?

Have you decided that the doubts are just too much? These are the steps you need to take to resolve your worries and find peace. The longer you run away from the answers, the greater your pain will be. Face your fears and overcome your doubts to rediscover your truth. How?

1. Consider the resource

Some doubts are justified or justified, while others are merely projections of one's own doubts or concerns. Go deep inside and be honest with yourself. Think about the origin of your doubts and get to know the reasons that made you see your partner in a different light.

Break down your doubts one by one and resolve them. Get to the root of their coming into your relationship. Don't avoid past pain and don't lie to yourself. Analyze. Ask yourself the key questions. What do you doubt? Are you doubting your partner? Or do you question your past? Is their behavior to blame?

2. Explain what you want

Once you realize your doubts and find out what is real and what is not, you need to get clear about what you want. Before you open up to your partner or make any dramatic moves - think about what you want. Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 or 20 years?

Take a few moments each day to write down what you want from your life. Consider all aspects. Look at your relationship and compare it to the relationship of your dreams? Is this really the person you can build a tomorrow with? Don't rush and avoid the truths. If you view the relationship with more doubts than benefits, ask yourself why you are still persisting.

3. Open up to each other

Talk honestly with your partner about your problems. About what you want, what you need and what emotions you hold inside. Don't talk without facts. Find a safe place where you can open up to each other in peace.

Explain your doubts to him. Let go of blame and try to avoid emotion (as much as possible). Then, give them space and time to think about it. After a while, you sit down and talk until you resolve your doubts.

4. Explore your space

Look into the space that separates you. How do you feel when you doubt your doubts? When you express your doubts to your partner and hear their reaction?

Doubts can be moments of fear, but they can be important indicators that you are moving in the wrong direction. If your doubts don't go away, then you need to spend some time in your own world—to decide what kind of world you want to share with someone else. Ask yourself and explore what you want from your life.

5. Treat samples

Sometimes doubts arise as a result of patterns you fall into over and over again. You push people away with them. Look at how relationships have played out in the past. What stopped you from opening up? Are these old wounds from your childhood? Go way back to get to the roots of your patterns.

Let go of the baggage that is pushing love out of your life. Eliminate negative patterns and take responsibility. Stand up for what you want and need. After all, you are the only ones who can do it.