Sometimes, despite all the effort, a relationship cannot succeed, even if there is mutual love, because that alone is not enough. Sometimes the people you feel you could build a future with are actually people who aren't going in the same direction as you.
Certain circumstances often occur that drive you apart, despite the undeniable spark that exists between the two of you. And you can do everything to keep such a person, but most likely you will only waste time and end up hurt and disappointed. For a relationship to succeed, love alone is not enough, but much, much more than that.
Here are 8 signs that may indicate you are in a relationship that has no future.
1. Your goals don't match
They are having fun together, but you get the feeling that they are on different wavelengths. Maybe his goal is to travel and explore while you're ready to settle down, buy a house, and start a family. If you want to be together, one of you would have to sacrifice your dreams, but that might be too high a price to pay.
2. One of you is going through a rough patch
If you are going through a difficult period and it is difficult for you to take care of yourself, then you cannot give the relationship the energy and attention it deserves. Unfortunately, staying in touch and moving the relationship forward is not your number one priority right now.
3. There is no joint effort in the relationship
It is essential that healthy relationships have mutual give and take and are not one-sided. If you are too busy to make time for the other person, take this as a hint that you are not capable of giving the emotional energy and time needed to develop a relationship.
4. A lot of life changes are happening
Relationships need a certain level of sustainability to create something lasting and consistent. Perhaps someone will be promoted at work and will have to move to another place. Will you leave with him? Will you be number two because their job is their priority? Are you willing to compromise to include you in your new life? If not, this is a clear sign that the end is imminent.
When love is not enough... Photo: Gil Ribeiro / Unsplash5. Aggravating circumstances
For example, it may happen that the other party has a small child from a previous relationship and you are not sure if you are ready for this responsibility. Or have you met someone unexpectedly on your trip, or are you ready for a long-distance relationship? Some obstacles are simply insurmountable.
6. You are emotionally unavailable
When you enter into a relationship with someone, honesty and mutual trust are necessary to develop intimacy. If one of you does not know how to open up, show emotions, this is a hint that the relationship will not be able to progress.
7. One of you is just not ready for a relationship
Maybe one of you has just come out of a difficult emotional relationship, and is hurt, disappointed. During the healing process, it is usually not possible to achieve a healthy relationship and love relationship. But this is a period of change and growth that can change both sides, so it's possible that all of this will bring you closer.
8. You sense that something is wrong
It may seem like everything is perfect, but if you have that weird feeling in your stomach that something isn't right with the relationship or that you're missing something, your intuition is trying to tell you something. Maybe this person really isn't who they are. It is up to you to decide whether or not to listen to your inner voice.
