Are you someone who always has to be right? Do you want to always have the last word in an argument? Do you get upset when others disagree with you?
If you want to always be right in a relationship, you will express your opinion and your view of the situation at all costs, regardless of how it will affect the other person. You will stubbornly stick to your opinion and will not be ready to listen to someone else who may have a different view of the whole situation. You will only believe in your right, you don't care what the other side thinks.
Are you someone who always has to be right?What is the point of this? Where's the love in that? There are many other ways to "prove" that you are right. When you realize that your mind is locked with the need to be right, call your heart and engage the following five virtues that are within you.
OPENNESS
You cannot always agree with the other, nor would it be normal if you did. People have different opinions, so if someone doesn't agree with you, it doesn't mean they are wrong and only your opinion counts. When you let go of the need to always be right, you give the other person space to express their vision. You begin to communicate and listen to others, not just yourself, with a greater degree of understanding and acceptance, with less judgment and resistance. You become more open and accept others more easily.
If someone doesn't agree with you, it doesn't mean they are wrong and only your opinion counts.NON-ATTACHMENT
When you express something with passion, you don't think about how it will be received by others. When you are attached to what you say and the need to have a translation, you tend to impose your ideas on others and distort beliefs just to gain validation from others and assert your right. Detachment gives you the freedom to communicate without the pressure of needing to make everything look right. Through detachment, you find peace regardless of whether your comments are accepted and regardless of which way the conversation goes. Who is right and who is wrong becomes irrelevant.
TOLERANCE
The idea that you must always be right is rooted deep in your ego. Take a deep breath and swallow your pride if someone says something you don't agree with. You don't have to prove that you think otherwise. Accept that sometimes your opinion is not what others think and that there is nothing wrong with that. It is not about compromising the truth, but about humility within the expression. It doesn't matter whether you are right or wrong, what matters is how you respond to the opinions of others.
The idea that you must always be right is rooted deep in the ego of the individual.DISMISSAL
The need to always be right affects your life, especially in your relationships with the people you love. When you believe that someone has made a mistake, hurt you with their words, you tend to want to prove them wrong, that they are wrong.
You want to hurt them like they hurt you instead of focusing on forgiveness. It's important to share your feelings, emotions, and talk about why you feel hurt, regardless of how the person hurt you.
When you choose to forgive, the need to always be right disappears.
KINDNESS
dr. Wayne Dyer wrote: "When you have to choose whether to do right or be kind, choose kind." We all struggle with the insecurity of our egos, the insecurity of being wrong, of being wrong. A threatened ego will always come to the fore and fight back. When you try to prove someone wrong, you are being unkind, whether you want to be or not. Only the ego cares whether you are right or wrong. The heart simply loves and accepts anyone on one side of the conversation or the other. Act from the heart. The next time the ego wants to take over the heart, tickle it. Tickle your SELF a little.
When you try to prove someone wrong, you are being unkind, whether you want to be or not.We meet Mr. JAZA every day.
It is not difficult to recognize him.
Mr. ME keeps saying: Me, me, me.
Mr. I AM is full of himself.
His words are the most important,
his experiences are the most exciting,
his desires most urgent,
his suffering worst.
Everything revolves around him.
Where he is is the center of the world.
Mr JAZ is very busy.
He never has time for others.
The Lord I AM resides in every person.
Let's put this selfish man at the door!
Let's start feeling with the people around us,
we share joys and sorrows with them.
Humans belong together
we are indispensable to each other.
He who is full of himself,
is essentially empty.
We won't be any bigger,
if we are going to humiliate others.
Who can forget himself
forget your worries too.
Most people want to change the world,
just not yourself.
Others must change.
The one up there,
they say below.
The one down there,
they say above.
Men say women.
Women say men.
We are starting to threaten and apply pressure.
We can't understand
that no one has the right to force others,
to change.
Only persuasion, only knowledge,
only friendship can prepare others to
to change.
Man is the only creature
who can only change himself.
Change the world?
I try this again and again - on myself!
Phil Bosmans
