Breaking up with a partner is one of the most painful experiences in life. Not only do we lose someone with whom we wanted to spend the future, but we suddenly find ourselves without a person to whom we could confide our feelings and secrets. That's why many people ask the question: is it good for you and your ex-partner to remain friends?
The person with whom we are in connection, it's not just ours partner, but also a friend, to whom we can trust ours wonderful, and also painful experiences. And that's why it's hard at the end of a relationship cut off contact completely, especially if we still feel that our ex-partner is someone we can be with we connect and which us really understands.
And yet - if you stay with him in friendly relations, you run the risk that it will recovery more difficult and that one of you will be kept hope to retry the connection.
Friendship right after a breakup?
Experts advise that after the end of the relationship you take some time, which you will survive without contacts with an ex-partner. Even if it was you who you are ended the relationship, you must still feel it certain emotions, which you will find difficult mitigated, if you are in constant contact. Therefore, we suggest that you set aside this time recovery, at which you will focused on themselves, on your own hobbies and friends.
If your ex-partner wants to to preserve contacts with you, we suggest that you give him your reasons at respectful and friendly way. Tell him it's not to get to him felt hatred or grievances, but that you think it will be for you distance helped each other get over it in peace.
Friendship after a certain time?
What about when it passes some time and you get the feeling that you are a partner got over it and that spending time together would not make you anymore hurt? We often ask ourselves this question when we have an ex-partner common society.
In such a case, experts advise to make your decision well think about it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your sweats occasionally meet and if they keep then civil relations, but you should ask yourself some questions before hanging out.
First of all, you have to with yourself clear up, how spending time like this affects yours psycho and how to him reacts ex-partner. If you feel like you still are wants, to be more than just a friend, it is important to put him clear boundaries. Also, pay attention to whether you have feelings for him grievances: these show that your recovery it's not quite over, and neither would a potential friendship made it difficult. It is also important that they are both calm thinking of one of you finding yourself a new partner: if you feel it would arouse in either of you jealousy and sadness, then friendship not the best choice.
Many find that staying in touch with ex-partners has helped them the most completely cut off. However, there are exceptions and in rare cases they can failed connection leads to solid friendship– only you yourself know best, or there is a chance, that you are among them.
