How to recognize when your partner really loves you? How to distinguish between real affection and a game? What misconceptions do you believe when you're in love?
When we are in love, everything seems to be the world is simply a magical place, where all problems and doubts are insignificant compared to the power of love. However, sometimes this magical feeling of being in love clouds our judgment and leaves us vulnerable to lies and false beliefs served up to us by both our emotions and societal stereotypes.
It's love wonderful feeling, which fills us with joy, enthusiasm and optimism.
As lovers, we often find ourselves in a whirlwind of thoughts that lead us to wrong conclusions about what it is true love and what it takes to have a happy relationship. However, it is important to understand that certain beliefs that we carry in our to the heart, hold us back and hinder us from building healthy and fulfilling partner relationships.
Some of the most common lies and misconceptions you believe when you're in love.
“My happiness depends on his/her love.”
Many lovers believe that their emotional state is completely dependent on the love and attention they receive from their partner. However, it is important to understand that our own happiness and satisfaction depends mainly on ourselves and not only on external factors.
“He will change me.”
Lovers often believe that their partners will be able to change their mistakes or bad habits. This belief can lead them to unrealistic expectations and disappointment when their partner does not turn out to be the fixer of all their problems.
"We have a perfect relationship."
Many lovers believe that they have a perfect relationship with their partner, without any problems or disagreements. However, no relationship is perfect and every couple faces their own challenges, conflicts and problems. Awareness of this is key to the healthy development of a partnership relationship.
"Love is the only thing that counts."
In love, it can feel like your partner's love is the only thing that matters, and that other relationships and friendships are less important. This can lead to isolation and alienation from other people.
"He loves me if he controls me."
Some people believe that love equals control and possessiveness. Instead of recognizing the toxicity of such behavior, they may believe that it is an expression of strong love, which is not true.
"Love is enough for a long-term relationship."
Although love is a key element of a healthy relationship, it alone is not enough to sustain a long-term and satisfying partnership. A successful relationship also requires mutual respect, communication, trust and compatibility of values.
"Our love will solve all problems."
Lovers sometimes believe that their love will be strong enough to solve all their problems or personal challenges. However, personal growth and self-discovery often require working on yourself and solving your own problems.
"He/she will give me everything I need."
Unhealthy expectations that your partner will fulfill all your needs and desires can be a recipe for disappointment. Each individual is responsible for their own satisfaction and happiness, so it is important that they do not expect their partner to solve all problems.
“I will never find someone else.”
After a relationship breakup, some may feel as if they will never find love or happiness again. However, it is important to understand that there are many opportunities for love in the world and that with the right support and a positive attitude, you can open yourself up to new opportunities again.
“I need to be in a relationship to be happy.”
Some believe that the only way to happiness and fulfillment is through a relationship. However, happiness and satisfaction can also come from other aspects of life, such as friendships, hobbies, career and personal growth.
“He will leave his wife/husband because I am special.”
They believe that their love is so strong or unique that their partner will leave their current partner or partners. However, it is important to understand that the reasons for the breakup of relationships can be complex and often do not relate to just one aspect of the relationship, such as the special connection between two people.
