"Don't waste your time and energy on those who don't care about you or those who don't love you." - Andrey Kurpatov
Andrey Kurpatov, a psychotherapist, writer and columnist for many publications, has set the golden rules of his life.
We suggest you read them.
1. Never shift the responsibility for what happens in your life to someone else
Don't give in to the temptation to blame other people, that might really be the easiest thing to do. But you will find strength when you fully accept that you are the creator of all your failures as well as all your successes.
2. Accept the fact that you can't change the past - it's over
You can only influence the present, maybe the future, and the latter depends on what you do now.
3. Reject the illusion that you can change others
Subconsciously, we all have this naive illusion that we can change someone. Consequently, we suffer because we cannot realize it. Only circumstances can change people. Allow others to be different, to be who they are. At some point, you might even start enjoying them.
4. People only need us when we are strong
No one needs you when you are weak, tired, suffering or unhappy. If people pretend to love you when you're weak, they're just lying to you. Don't fall for such lies. Just accept the absoluteness of this rule, exhale and smile.
5. All our actions have consequences
In fact, we always choose - not what we will do, but what will be the result of our actions. So always think about the consequences. That way, less nonsense will happen in your life.
6. Do what really matters to you
If you're wondering what the meaning of life is, you're probably a little depressed. What is important is not the meaning of life, but the feeling that you are living your life meaningfully. Do what you think is important. Don't forget about it. Don't blindly follow success just because people around you are doing it. If you simply do what you think is important, success will surely come to you.
7. Don't waste your time and energy on those who don't care about you or those who don't love you
There are many people in this world that you like and with whom life would be happy and interesting. Don't close yourself off and don't doubt all people.
Believe me, openness and kindness will help you find the right people.
