When thinking about reconciling with your ex or ex, remember the five most important things!
It is not uncommon for an ex-partner to reappear in our life after the breakup of a long-term serious relationship. Usually this happens either because we broke up on a bad note, so one of the ex-partners needs an apology or a "better ending", or because the ex-partner has been manipulating us for years, so he comes back to try again.
When our paths cross again, the mind starts playing tricks on us - many questions arise and most often we wonder if we should give him/her a second chance. The answer depends on what happened after the breakup. Did we survive and move on? Or are we still in love with this person and this relationship?
Whatever it is, when it comes to your ex, always keep the following 5 things in mind, because life usually brings him/her back our way - if we're honest - to check how stupid we are!
1. Don't forget why you broke up
You should remember not only the good things, but also the pain, disappointments and other negative feelings you experienced because of your partner. You probably didn't just decide to break up, something forced you to do so. Before reviving the relationship, remember why you broke up with her!
2. Reconciliation is inadmissible only because of the lack of intimacy
This is the most common reason why ex-partners reconcile. That's what keeps love alive, but it's not a reason to stay in a bad relationship. You shouldn't reconcile with your ex just because you spent years and years with them or you feel lonely and lack intimacy with someone close to you. A healthy emotional and psychological connection is much more important than a physical one.
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3. You still can't find the meaning of being together?
At least one of you couldn't imagine a future together and that's why you broke up. What has changed to make you think it will work now?
4. Trust is destroyed
It is true that trust can be restored, but in 99 percent of cases it will not be the same as before. You will still question his/her actions, which does not lead to anything good.
5. In principle, people do not change
You can change some of your partner's habits, but you cannot change their nature. No amount of love or devotion helps here. If it's the same as before, don't run from the truth - run from him/her.