Our relationships go through five stages, and couples often break up in the third stage. If your love will (or has) survived the third stage and is now in the fourth or fifth, then you have truly established a stable, safe and sincere relationship. It is important for couples to know these stages of love, as they can expect them and navigate them more easily.
"It seemed we were destined for each other," is a phrase you've probably heard from someone who just ended a relationship. And you'd be lying if you didn't admit that at a certain point in your life, you too believed you were the perfect match with a certain person. And then comes the moment when love is gone. Turns off. It disappears. How and why it happens that "a perfect couple” interrupts the romantic story, it is a complicated question, which cannot be easily answered.
Diamond dish, an American psychologist who already 40 years in scientific waters, came to the realization, why most relationships end once. The problem, he argues, isn't that you can't find the love of your life, it's that you can't keep it because very few couples go through all five stages of love. Most reach stage three.
LOVE HAS 5 STAGES: WHERE ARE YOU TWO?
FIRST PHASE
Falling in love. It's that feeling when you're on a cloud of happiness. This is the time when all your energy is directed towards your partner. A partner is a perfect person who has no flaws.
SECOND PHASE
Couple. The love between you grows stronger. At this stage, many couples decide to live together. This is the time when you influence each other's lives. This is a time of joy. During this period, some couples decide to have children. That's when you believe that your partner is the right person for you.
THE THIRD PHASE
Don't live in a cloud of happiness. This is the stage when you realize that you are no longer as deeply in love and you are no longer as happy as you were at the beginning of the relationship. Your partner is predictable, so his behavior often annoys you. You need a break from life together and some couples start to think that they are not made for each other.
THE FOURTH PHASE
True love. If you manage to overcome the third stage without breaking up with your partner, you are in the process of building a love that will last a lifetime. Your mind is then free of all illusions, as you realize that your partner has some weaknesses, but you have accepted him as such.
THE FIFTH PHASE
They are changing the world. This is the stage when the love between you is so strong, long-lasting and indestructible that you have overcome all misunderstandings and come to the conclusion that you can change the world. This is the time when you can find something that you will realize and build together. At this stage, you can be sure that you have a person by your side for life and that this person is right for you.
