When a relationship begins, we usually feel passion and chemistry, pleasant nervousness and anticipation - the emotions most characteristic of early love. After years of love, these feelings subside and many couples face the question: are they really happy in their relationship, or are they just satisfied with the comfort that a long-term relationship brings? We asked what the experts think about it: how do you know if you still want a partner, or if you've just come to terms with the relationship?
It is completely normal to have a relationship over several years strong crush change to calmly, comfortable love. However, it does make a difference if you feel like you're having a relationship reconciled and you stay in it only because comforts, or you feel in it calm, satisfied and happy.
Therefore, experts advise that you look at your relationship from realistic perspectives and assess whether you still feel what is necessary for your partner maintaining a healthy relationship.
How do you know if you still want a relationship?
It is completely normal for your emotions, which were full at the beginning of the relationship adrenaline, after a certain time a little calm down. Falling in love, which is usually accompanied by seeing the partner in ideal lights, turns into after years of relationship love, in which we love our partner exactly such, as it really is. However, this does not mean that we do not need a relationship to work.
The main sign that we are in a relationship happy and that it is about a healthy relationship is that our partner and I are decent enough to talk about more difficult topics, which sometimes arouse in us fear of being judged, but they are for relationship maintenance urgent. Love and the desire to continue the relationship are also shown by the fact that we are always ready for our partner stand by, Mrs to listen and with him resolve misunderstandings, which we encounter in the relationship. It is important not to look at them looking for the negative, but ways that will help us to continue the relationship and each other's reactions as best as possible we understand. It's also a good sign, yes calm happiness we feel when we look at future and we imagine ourselves together with a partner.
What if we are in a relationship reconciled and wishes do we not feel it anymore? Then we won't care for her tried, we will not look for ways to to understand and to make happy partner, and the thought of a joint future will not be with us made me happy, but it will fill us with feelings voids, anxiety or even of fear.
How to bring the spark back to the relationship?
If you feel like you are with your relationship reconciled and look at you future with a partner it doesn't make you happy, that doesn't mean all is lost. Many couples meet with periods, when they no longer feel the sparks, but then they manage to be emotions return.
First you need to figure out where it might lie the reason for your feelings. Most of the time it happens because of lack of communication and effort– two things you can do you influence. You should be aware that it is necessary on every relationship to work and that it is not necessary that the time when the emotions are somewhat less, means that the relationship must finish.
Therefore, we suggest that with a partner talk and clarify how you could improve yours communication. You can also revive the relationship with romantic gestures: you can invite your partner to date, prepare for him a romantic dinner, you organize a joint trip and you pay attention to which of the five languages of love you will achieve that he will feel the most beloved.
But what if you think that to luck in your relationship you cannot or yes you are the only one, which you invest in effort? Life situations like this sometimes happen, and then you have to remember that you are you earn someone who will be there for you willing to make an effort. It also sometimes happens that over several years let's change to the extent that the common language more not found- in this case, it is best to think carefully about whether it is worth it in such a relationship to persist.
