Suddenly there is nothing but cold silence from his side. Ignoring. When a man begins to withdraw, distance himself and act cold towards you, it is difficult to stay composed and maintain self-respect.
You usually blame yourself, question yourself – what did you do or say wrong, were you too dependent on him and demanding, are you good enough for him – and question your worth.
If he has all the power in the relationship, you're just waiting to see what he does or leaves you. You feel helpless, you don't want to lose him and you don't know what to do.
Try these ways to maintain your dignity.
Give him space
It seems simple, but in reality it is not easy - your heart tells you to try to get closer to him in every way, but wisdom advises you to think carefully and stay calm. In most cases, when a man withdraws, it has nothing to do with his partner and is probably a struggle with some internal problem. If you take it personally and dramatically, then it becomes a problem and it doesn't help him or your relationship.
How to give him space? Leave it and wait. Give him time and space to gather himself. When he's ready, he'll approach himself, start a conversation, and explain to you what's going on with him.
Many women feel aversion to this idea, their tendency is to get what they want, not to walk away from it. This also includes the fear that the man will forget them if they are not constantly present and they do not remind him of themselves and their relationship. Women's fears are fueled by insecurities.
Don't worry about his withdrawal, but use it to find the roots of your insecurities, to get to know yourself better and to get rid of your weaknesses.
Maintain self-respect through self-control
Stress is fatal in any situation, but in this one it can completely derail you and destroy your relationship. Master your mind.
When anxiety starts to overwhelm you, follow your thoughts. Notice each one that comes up and ask yourself if that thought is doing you any good. If it causes fear, anxiety, uncertainty, the answer is no.
Try to reframe this thought using the technique of counting from 5 to 1. Take a deep breath, count and ask yourself the question, what if everything is going to be okay?, and imagine things going the way you want them to.
The purpose of this distraction exercise is to move from the panicked place within you to a calmer, more rational zone.
Understand that you cannot control everything
Your self-esteem will be boosted by the thought that you can't control everything - the sky won't fall on you just because you don't hold it. It's liberating to think that everything will be okay, even though there's nothing you can do about it. Stop digging, analyzing and strategizing how to solve a problem that doesn't exist yet. Resist the urge to do something just because it gives you the false sense that you are somehow in control of the situation.
Trying to fix something by obsessing over the problem is futile - it's like running on a conveyor belt and expecting to get somewhere. You use a lot of energy, but you are still in the same place.
Naturally, your mind wants to understand this mystery and solve it, to find answers so that you don't have to worry. The fact is that you have no influence on the circumstances in which the other person finds himself, on his life, thoughts and feelings. All you can control are your own thoughts and reactions.
Your happiness does not depend on your partner
Your happiness is your responsibility and your power, if you hand it over to another person, you are depriving yourself of it. You are nobody's half, you are whole yourself, so turn to yourself and rely on yourself. You don't condition your happiness on the fact that you will only be happy if your partner returns.
Your happiness is a choice you make every day and is made up of many small decisions - and it certainly doesn't depend on whether a man pays attention to you.
Go ahead
Limit the space you give it. You will not wait for him forever and be available to him. Give him some space and if he still doesn't show up, send him a casual message along the lines of - just to see how you are, hope everything is ok - or something. If you don't get any response, then it's time to realize that this relationship is over.
Having self-respect means knowing your worth and holding yourself to your own standards. Don't chase a man, but choose one who meets your criteria and realizes your worth.
