How to recognize a narcissist: behind the irresistible charisma there is always an endless game of manipulation

When we meet a narcissist, we are usually taken over by his charm and charisma. Their ability to manipulate is almost imperceptible until we find ourselves caught in their web. These are the ways how to recognize a narcissist.

A narcissist has many faces, which he proudly displays to others, each face more false than the last. He is good at communication and works with any social group and gains popularity. However, there is a catch - he usually has one target in mind, a person who exhibits the qualities of compassion, integrity and empathy.

Why? He envies everyone who is better than him and perceives them as a threat that needs to be eliminated. He feels he must quickly dim his light.

Unfortunately, the target will eventually become aware the true nature of a narcissist, she will realize that she has been idealized and then humiliated and criticized. This form of abuse occurs in all types of relationships, from romantic and family to work. It happens in any situation where a narcissist exploits and manipulates other human beings.

Why is a narcissist still considered a good person despite manipulation?

Narcissists are extremely adept at creating an image that others see. They know how to praise they humiliate their "victims" in public and in private criticize. They are able to trigger emotional responses in others, which they then take advantage of and portray them as unstable or problematic. They covertly abuse their victims while avoiding charges themselves.

When they meet someone new, they immediately assess whether that person could be beneficial to them or a threat. Those who appear to be a threat are first showered with praise and adoration, then completely devalued and discarded.

They build a strong image of their victim, and then he will be thrown out of balance, so it's not clear to her where the shit stops in his life. Thus he inflicts pain and doubt in the heart of the victim. The chosen victim is simultaneously idealized and devalued. Until he kicks her off the pedestal because she begins to reveal his true nature.

In the narcissist's maze of manipulation, the only winner is him

In addition, they possess something that instills confidence in people. Be it their good looks, charm, intellect or something else, they have something that attracts others. This is called "halo effect", where people associate one positive trait with other aspects of their personality.

A narcissist spends his whole life creating a seductive, but false self-image, which makes him seem very caring, warm and friendly to others. They manipulate their victims with their false reliability and supposed integrity. They carefully choose their victims from those who have not yet learned their true nature or are willing to ignore red flags.

If he feels he might be exposed, defends and blames the victim, that they cause trouble for no reason.

The reason we are not always willing to confront these manipulators is that when someone mistreats and abuses us, we tend to project our sense of empathy and morality onto them, convincing ourselves that deep down they are good people. That's why it's so important to you trust your inner voice and walk away.