What is it that completely turns men off? If you are single, you need to learn what not to do. For those of you who have been in a relationship for a long time, it probably won't hurt to refresh your memory on what qualities men hate in women.
What are the qualities that men absolutely do not like in women?
12. Instability and distraction
A woman with a stable life and clear goals is attractive to boys. But instability, distraction, which manifests itself in tardiness and extreme selfishness, are character traits that will drive boys away. If necessary, let's make a schedule and reminders, use handy tools and applications that will help us not to appear too distracted and indifferent. We all forget sometimes, but it's worth the effort to get organized.
11. Dramatization
When we are really hurt or upset, we want our partner to be with us and offer us his support and encouragement. This means that we shouldn't over-dramatize - we don't need to burst into tears every time we have an argument with our friend, we don't need to threaten our partner to break up with him every time he doesn't suit us (especially if we don't mean it seriously). Guys tend to avoid drama as much as possible. Let's save our outbursts for the things that really matter.
10. Trying to change your partner
Yes, it's true. Our love can change him into a better person. However, this does not mean that we can completely change it. Let's not try to turn him into a man who will wear nice pants and shirts if he is a man who wears jeans and T-shirts. Let's not try to force him to find a "real" job if he earns enough and is an artistic type of person. Men are what they are. And when we try to change them, we will only resent them.
9. Boredom in bed
Guys love sex. A lot. Apart from the satisfaction that sex brings, sex is also a way for our partner to show and strengthen his emotional connection with us. But if we are boring in bed, he can become alienated. At least we have to show interest. If we don't dare to be bold, we talk about it with our partner and he will surely make us more comfortable. This shows that we are ready to spice things up and that is definitely attractive!
8. Too much alcohol
If we're going to a birthday party, wedding, dinner or vacation with our boyfriend - let's make sure we're not drunk the whole time. It's true that most guys would take a drunk girl home, but not to meet his parents. Let's not get drunk to the point of unconsciousness every time we "party" with our boyfriend. This shows that we have no self-control, but at the same time it means that someone has to constantly watch over us, as if we were a small child.
7. All-knowing psychologist
We hate it when a guy tries to tell us what to do instead of listening to our problems and taking time to think things over, right? Boys are no different either. If we always analyze our man and give him advice that he didn't ask for, it will start to bother him more and more. And if we don't stop it, he won't trust us anymore and will talk to his friends and family instead.
6. Condemnation and prejudice
Of course, we certainly know more about some things than our partner does. We may even be able to judge (with intuition) which boys are "jerks" and will not bring anything positive into our lives. But it is right to resist judgment and prejudice. Men like intelligent women, but that doesn't mean they need to know everything. Let's not forget, our partner knows his friends and family better than we do and obviously has a reason why they are still in his circle. So if we have to say something, let's make sure we do it in a loving and objective way.
5. Poor hygiene
It's obvious that guys don't like girls who don't take care of themselves. Even though guys can be real jerks - they don't shower for days, they leave dirty clothes and old food lying around - they absolutely hate it when women are the same. No, it's not fair, but it's reality. We probably don't even want them to stoop to this level of poor hygiene. We will be more diligent, sooner we can expect that our partners will also follow our standard of cleanliness.
4. Grinding
It's true, guys don't like "cums". When we start flirting, we remind our partner of his mother, which of course erases any traces of sexual attraction. If we asked him to do something, he probably heard us, even if he didn't respond right away.
3. Telling his girlfriends about his personal things
Guys have different types of friendship than women do. Guys may not seem like they talk much about themselves, but when they share detailed information about their lives, fears or dreams, they want us to keep it to ourselves. They don't want us to chat about it with our girlfriends. Men prioritize loyalty, and if we always reveal his secret, then he will conclude that we are not loyal to him. Private moments between partners are NECESSARY, especially if we want to build a lasting relationship.
2. Hanging out with your ex
How would you feel if our boyfriend developed a friendship with an ex? Would you let them hang out without us? Would it be okay if his ex called him in the middle of the night and talked to him about some problem she was having? Does simply reading these questions make us angry and uncomfortable? If so, then we know how our partner feels about being friends with our ex. Our boyfriend, fiance, or husband doesn't want to hear how great our ex was and that unfortunately things just didn't work out. This will give him the feeling that we still want to be with him.
1. Indecision
Guys hate indecision. Our task is to decide and clearly state what we want. Men love women who know what they want. This keeps them on track and also helps them to not be indecisive in the relationship themselves. So if we're going to make a decision, let's stick with it—whether it's for dinner or our career goals. Believing in yourself has its advantages!
