If you're currently single and worried about how you'll fare in the new age dating world, don't worry - here are some tips to help.
You can date in your 30s represents a great challenge - you've probably heard countless times from family or friends when you're getting married, and the additional stress is caused by people around you who are starting families. For everyone it seems yes they follow the flow of life, while you are supposedly “deviated from the path".
There are few single people who will admit that they really want love, but it is they can't find, because they don't even know what are they actually looking for. Be honest with yourself, follow your intuition, and realize that dating is in your 30s slightly different, as it was during your teenage years, but that doesn't mean you can't fall in love as a teenager!
5 key dating tips for 30 year olds:
Define what you want.
It is important that you know exactly what you want and what you are looking for. Past relationships and desperate dates should help you understand, what you cannot tolerate in your partner and what you can. The point is to focus on personality (before looks), because the latter is what counts the most. As you begin to realize the things you want to find in a partner, focus on them as well. Try to bring out the best in a person.
Be frank.
Realize that you are no longer a teenager who hesitates and breaks hearts, but an adult and responsible person who should be aware of the importance of honesty. Right at the beginning be open and honest about how you view love and what your expectations are. If you want to get married, have children, be in an open relationship or something else, say so directly. In this way, you will let the person know if it is worth fighting for you, or if they will look for their happiness elsewhere.
Years are just a number.
Although you may not realize it, society puts a lot of pressure on you because there are expectations of what a 30-year-old should be. Your parents are probably already asking you when you will get married, and additional pressure is created by the people around you who happily give birth to children and who seem to have already found their meaning in life. Don't bother at all! You will probably think that during these years you must have everything in your life and in your head already carefully determined, but years are actually just a number. Realize that love can be found at any time.
Forget the rules.
You've probably heard a million times about the dating rules you should follow - wait three days before contacting them; don't make the first move; don't be annoying, ... But right now is the time to forget about them. It is the rules that create obstacles in the way. The best and only rule you should really follow is the fact that you are not waiting for the perfect person because there is no such thing.
Listen to your intuition.
Due to the pressure of society, it can quickly happen that you try hard to get into a relationship with someone who is not compatible with you at all. Don't do that! Don't waste your time with people who don't challenge you in any sense of the word. They probably never will. This will be another relationship in the series of "unsatisfactory". However, it is true that you will be able to learn from each such relationship what you absolutely do not want in love.
Be brave and don't think that because of falls and a broken heart, you are done with your love life. There is a person waiting for you somewhere outside who will be you perfectly complementary!
