How do you get people to like you RIGHT NOW? We have 7 psychological tricks for you that can help you with this.
Trust it's a very complicated thing. Our brains are supposed to determine in less than one second whether they can trust someone or not, but if this were true, there would be no divorces, broken friendships and cheating in this world. That's why people are often cautious when it comes to trust and don't immediately trust everyone we meet. Nevertheless, there are some tricks that can be used with individuals already at the first contact we get some positive points.
1. Show that you like them.
If someone likes us and shows us that, there is a much greater chance that we will like that person more. To the person we like, namely we approach with a certain amount of warmth, which the other person feels, so as a result, they also like us more. Therefore, always use a positive and warm approach during the first contacts.
2. All cards on the table
Although it may sound strange, with show your true self right from the start, you gain positive points from the other person, because they see you as a genuine person who is not pretending. Of course, it's not appropriate to tell all your deepest secrets on the first date, but you shouldn't pretend to like something when you don't, and to be someone you're not.
3. Mimic their facial expressions.
No, this does not mean that you repeat every grimace your interlocutor makes, but you can you react to a certain situation with a similar facial expression to him. This only applies to positive patterns, so don't repeat negative patterns after them, such as turning away or not being able to make eye contact.
4. Trust the secret.
When people share with others something that means a lot to us, we do it with a certain glow in our eyes and with a certain enthusiasm. So when with someone let's share a secret, we give the interlocutor the feeling that we trust him with something that means a lot to us, which brings us closer.
5. Watch the speed of your speech.
Just the right rate of speech – not too fast so that the interlocutor can understand us, and not too slow so that he does not lose attention and interest, has a positive effect. Of course, the speed must be adapted to the situation. If we talk about something that excites us or something urgent, our speed is faster, but if we talk about emotional matters or something serious, we do it more slowly and add emotions to the speech.
6. Touching
Random touches of the interlocutor are supposed to build trust and closeness. A gentle grip on the shoulder or hand, when the opportunity is right, can increase the chances of getting closer to the person you are talking to. Of course, it is again necessary to assess the situation and the appropriateness of such actions so that there is no feeling of being forced into the interlocutor's personal space.
7. Everything revolves around them.
Humans are often egotistical creatures and we like it when things revolve around us and we have a lot of attention. That's why focus on the other person's needs and show that you care about what they have to say. So if they talk to you about something, listen carefully and show interest by asking sub-questions. Of course, include your interests so they can get to know you too.