Today, communication via SMS or other electronic communication tools is the most common way of conversation between couples, especially at the beginning of a relationship. How you do it, however, can reveal a lot about you.
A woman who values herself knows how to use these tools to her advantage. He is aware that typing messages is only one of the tools in a rich set of remaining ways of knowing. Such a woman understands that such communication does not say anything about the direction in which the relationship is developing.
A woman who values herself doesn't keep typing
A woman who appreciates herself knows that the rule "less is more" applies when typing. A woman who values herself also values her time. He has friends, a job/career, and he just can't just type messages all day. He understands that messages are just words, and he knows that actions really count. In addition, such electronic maintenance of the relationship really does not require much effort and does not necessarily mean that the man is sincerely interested.
She is greatly alarmed by men who spend all day texting instead of putting their effort into actually spending time with her. With such men, she will begin to wonder: “Is he not doing anything smart in his life?”,"Where is he in such a hurry?" etc.
A self-respecting woman doesn't worry about what will happen (or what won't happen) if she doesn't engage in these kinds of all-day communications.
Texting is a pacing tool
If you don't engage in texting too often, you're holding the man back a bit, you are slowing it down. But this is the best way to get to know him in the right light. You will learn a lot about a man if you don't answer him right away. His reaction will tell you if he is just hungry for your attention or if he is genuinely interested in you.
Pay attention to how he will react if you don't reply to his message. He will doubt you or send you another message or two, he will write "You're obviously no longer interested"? (If you've already received such a message, I hope you've truly lost interest.) It's not about deliberately ignoring messages or strategic relationship games, but about living a normal life that doesn't revolve around someone obsessed with communicating via text.
To men from the beginning explain that you are not the type of woman who is on the phone all day. Make them understand that sometimes you forget your phone at home or your battery dies, so you don't take it with you to the bathroom and bedroom, don't use it when you're out with people, etc.
In addition to slowing the man down, you will slowed themselves down too and help yourself not to get attached to the attention of a man you don't even know yet. And you will give your brain less chance to overplay all those unnecessary anxious thoughts and meaningless self-talk that we women so often have.
Anticipation increases attraction
If you follow points 1 and 2, you will be in his eyes more mysterious. Don't be unexpected in the conversation, don't hang on his words and don't put him first...yet. But when you answer him, be charmingly flirtatious, cheerful, interested and receptive. This will make you more interesting.
Remember, "less is more". If you keep exchanging messages, there is no room for expectation. But anticipation is key to attraction.
She doesn't write to him if he doesn't write to her
A woman who values herself she doesn't text a man who hasn't texted her in a week or more. She doesn't feel the need to remind him that she's still alive. She doesn't ask what she did wrong, and she certainly won't question the man and demand an explanation for his withdrawal. She will simply observe. He realizes that if he wanted to communicate, he would. She never initiates or tries to get the man to start communicating again.
It is important when he writes reports
As already said, a woman who values herself, he values his time and he values his time too. Therefore, he does not send messages when he is at work or in the company of friends. Don't worry if you don't get a reply to your message right away.
He gives it to him enough space, so that he can live normally, does not judge him, does not make conclusions or draw conclusions, and does not doubt him. She expects the same from him. If he's texting her while she's working or out with friends, that's an alarm for her.
What about sexting? (sexting = sending messages with sexual content)
It's not true that all men only want to talk about sex. If we come across such a man, we must first ask ourselves if this is a man who values himself. Remember: if a man is "sexting" with you, he is most likely doing it with others. If you start "sexting" a man, it will be very difficult to move on from that point if you later find yourself wanting something more. But if you're just looking for fun, go for it. However, you should be aware that you are killing the anticipation by doing so and on the other hand, you create expectations that may never be fulfilled. If you still want something more after a while, stop "sexting" and watch how he reacts to it.
But when you have already connected and your relationship has already passed to the second level, "sexting" can be very pleasant and easy helps build anticipation and attraction.
He doesn't discuss deep topics via text
One of the most important habits of a woman to appreciate is that she never communicates about important things through messages. He is aware that a lot of information is lost through messages and that therefore he can there is a misunderstanding. Plus, she's not so out of sorts that she has to type whole paragraphs explaining what she's thinking and how she's feeling.
