Embrace all your flaws and insecurities because they are what make you beautiful.
Sex is supposed to be a pleasure and you don't need to do anything just to please someone if you don't feel comfortable doing it. No one is perfect, even in intimacy we all make mistakes and learn.
So remember:
1. You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable
You shouldn't feel pressured to be intimate with someone. You shouldn't feel obligated to give someone access to your body. You don't have to do anything you're not ready to do because the right person won't rush you. The right person will want to feel comfortable with you, not push you into a situation where you are not comfortable and not sure what is right. Remember, if you feel like you have to have sex with someone because you're going to lose them, then you're with the wrong person.
2. Your body is amazing
If someone is excited about having sex with you, then there is no reason to feel insecure about your body. They won't judge you, and judging yourself will only make you feel bad and insecure. Don't find fault with yourself. Stop dwelling on all your faults and start focusing on your strengths. You are beautiful and attractive and it is high time you accept that as truth.
3. Everyone moves at a different pace
You may feel insecure about the small amount of experience you have – but you shouldn't feel like you're falling behind your friends. You should not feel that there is something wrong with you. No one reaches milestones at the same time. There is nothing wrong with having sex later than others.
4. There's nothing wrong with making mistakes in the bedroom
Every individual is different. Every single relationship is different. Although your partner may have more experience than you, they have never been with you before. This means they will be just as insecure as you. Each of you will look for points and ways that the other likes.
5. Your partner is probably insecure too
Even the most confident people doubt themselves. Whenever you start to feel insecure about your body, remember that you're not the only person who feels this way. It's quite natural.
6. It's okay to feel insecure
But it's not okay if your partner makes you insecure. If the reason you are uncomfortable is because your partner insulted you and made an inappropriate comment about your body or whatever, then you need to find another partner. Never settle for someone who treats you disrespectfully. Be only with people who make you feel more confident, more beautiful, more alive.
7. Sex is not the most important thing in the world or in a relationship
Your serious relationship should be more than just sex. It should be friendship. Support. Love. Caring for each other. Sex is important, but it's not the only thing you need to make a relationship work, so don't stress too much about it.
