When should all your alarms start ringing?
There are many relationships in the world where sex is simply not present, but these still work and the partners are happy. If this describes your relationship, there is no reason to worry. Sex is not always necessary for a successful relationship, if both partners are satisfied with the drought. The problem arises when both partners do not agree on a relationship without sex, which can lead to serious problems. It is therefore crucial that you and your partner talk about why you are not having sex and how you feel about it, and express your desires and frustrations.
But when can you raise your hands, because apparently this problem is unsolvable?
1. The partner does not want to participate in solving problems that they have in an intimate relationship
Many other problems can lead to a decrease in sexuality in a relationship, and overcoming them requires teamwork, so a joint search for the causes, which we then gradually solve together. Before you rush into a breakup, you should sincerely confide in your partner about your concerns or the things that bother you about sex, and then find a joint solution. To improve your sex life, you must work as a team. Before you come to the conclusion that your partner just doesn't want to cooperate, set up a mirror for yourself: have you really done everything to find a JOINT solution?
2. When, in addition to sexual problems, you have many other problems that you cannot solve
As mentioned earlier, the lack of sex can be the result of many other problems that you are facing as a couple. These other problems are the real reason why you are thinking about breaking up! Talk, communicate, can you still work things out, or is it too late?
3. When your sexual interests are so different that there's no way you can both enjoy sex, and you can't find other ways to explore those interests
Sometimes couples are tormented by these "erotic conflicts". Each of us has a set of things that excite us, we have a vision of what sex should be and with whom we want it. And sometimes we don't have a partner by our side who wants the same things. If you both decide on a sex therapist, he or she can help you find some similarities in your desires, but sometimes these simply don't exist. Some couples resort to the world of fantasy and self-gratification in order to save their relationship, others decide to have an "open relationship". If these options do not suit you, talk to each other, maybe it is really better to break up. Of course, you should really talk and explore your options first.
Always talk openly and keep an open mind so that you can solve the problem. Lack of sex is mostly a symptom of other things going on in your life. Sexual desires change with age, especially in long-term relationships, but ALL OF THIS IS NORMAL, and all of this can be FIXED!
If you want to stay together and enjoy your sex life together, work as a team on this and above all, enjoy!
