Expectations often lead to disappointments, even if they are clearly set and realistic. However, when expectations are unrealistically high, disappointment is inevitable from the start, because the relationship cannot even develop if the other person cannot reach the level you have set. These are signs that it's not that someone isn't good enough for you, but that your standards are too high and unrealistic!
You set standards for others that you don't even meet yourself
You want someone who is a "worldly man", who has traveled the world, is educated, has breadth, someone who is financially stable and independent, someone who looks like an actor - but you yourself do not meet any of these requirements. You have a long list of requirements for your potential partner, and no one you meet meets all the requirements.
It might be a good idea to shorten the list to basic values. Honest, dedicated, stable - or whatever is most important to you. And just think what a long list of male requirements might look like and how you would feel if you found out that you don't meet even a third of the standards?
You expect a man to always take the initiative
You want to be treated like a princess, you expect grand gestures from men, gentlemanly behavior, organizing exciting dates, preparing surprises... You may have been taught that a man should always take the initiative, but in real life this is not always the case - that is, the initiative is not reserved for men only. In this case, a large percentage of women who have partners would be alone, because they did not encourage, return, ask, but just waited. You don't have to take on a man's role or the nature of a man, but everyone likes the other person sometimes to take the initiative, to think of something, to organize, to suggest something.
You are attracted to unavailable men
You are only interested in those who act as a challenge - the unattainable, the hard to win, the busy, the men in position, the ones you consider to be in the big leagues. This means that you are not interested in true love, but in proving yourself and boosting your ego. If you conquer someone who is "above you", then you are worth more in your eyes.
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If he doesn't get the ground under your feet right away, you won't give him a second chance
You expect fireworks in your head, butterflies in your stomach and a sense of connection as soon as you meet someone. If the fascination is absent, you are not interested in getting to know this person better and seeing if a relationship could develop over time. You have cinematic expectations – love at first sight or nothing.
Get angry when the other person doesn't respond the way you envisioned
You have prepared a fatal performance, you have enjoyed the role and you expect the other person to participate in the scenario that you have imagined in your head. But no one reads your mind and knows what you have in mind and how they should react, and you are angry that things are not going the way you wanted them to. It would be a good idea to catch yourself when you're angry that the other person isn't interpreting your signals correctly and isn't behaving the way you expect them to, and to rethink your beliefs and expectations. You compromise your own happiness and don't let anyone get really close to you - your expectations are a wall between you.
Your expectations about love do not change over the years
As you mature and develop, your attitudes and expectations change. The more mature and wise you are, the lower your expectations are and the closer you are to reality. You are willing to tolerate the imperfections of real life and real relationships. If your expectations about love haven't changed over the years, you probably haven't matured and gotten rid of romantic illusions and unrealistic ideas and expectations.
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