Sometimes the pain lingers long after the relationship ends. Sometimes pain overshadows your every step. It stayed in the little things, in the morning coffee, in the whispers, in the places you visited together... You are allowed to feel the pain.
You are allowed to feel pain when you leave someone, that you love. You are allowed to feel the pain of saying goodbye to your family, friends or your loved ones, when you decide to leave them and go somewhere else. You're allowed to feel the pain of loss and you're allowed to miss them, but that doesn't mean you're wrong.
It doesn't mean you made the wrong decision, and it certainly doesn't mean you should change your mind. Sometimes pain and sadness are just part of your journey, part of your growth, but that doesn't mean you have to change your path or direction. You are allowed to feel the pain and stay on the same path.
Allow yourself to feel. Photo: Anthony Tran/UnsplashYou are allowed to feel the pain of loneliness, when you take the road less traveled and when you don't follow the same path as your parents or friends. You are allowed to feel the fear that comes with risk, but don't let that fear make you question the decisions you make or the risks you take.
There is a reason why you chose a certain path or why your heart moved towards a certain choice and you should not let anyone discourage you from continuing. You shouldn't let all those "what ifs" and worst case scenarios get to you because your path requires you to be brave, dedicated and steadfast.
You are allowed to feel the weight separation from the home you once loved or the people you thought you'd never leave. You are allowed to feel sad that the picture you had in mind for your life doesn't reflect your reality, but you shouldn't try too hard to make that picture come to life.
Don't forget you're only human. Photo: Gadiel Lazcano / UnsplashYou are allowed to feel the pain of your own mistakes. The things you destroyed, the times you did something wrong, the nights you didn't have the strength to fight, and the days you couldn't wake up to make things happen. You are allowed to feel the pain of disappointment, but that doesn't mean you were wrong, it just means you weren't as evolved as you are today, you didn't learn the lessons you needed back then, and you didn't have the tools back then to may serve you.
You are allowed to feel pain, but you should not strain yourself over and over again because of things that were not meant for you. Maybe the things meant for you will come into your life easily and you won't have to feel any pain. You may be allowed to feel pain for now, but that doesn't mean you're wrong. Sometimes you are right and just mourn the loss of what could have been before you turn that page and start a new chapter in your life.
