Compatibility between partners can be quite a tricky thing. While it's ideal to have as many things in common as possible with your partner, on the other hand, you don't want to be too similar, as that can be boring and even problematic.
Enneagram (of Greek origin - ennea means nine and gramma means sign or picture) is a very old typology that describes nine different personality types. It contains internal dynamics and is presented in the form of a circle. Nine points are arranged on the circle, which are separated by forty degrees. These nine points are indicated by the numbers 1 to 9, which follow each other in a clockwise direction. Each of the Enneagram numbers represents a specific energy state, and the connections between the points represent the dynamics between specific energy points.
Types of personality according to the Enneagram
1. The reformers
Reformers are motivated by ideas of perfection as they strive for their own betterment and the betterment of everyone and everything around them. They are constantly looking for balance and true satisfaction. They can often be hypocritical or critical.
2. Assistants
A sincere personality who strives for true love and respect. They are often seen as flatterers, possessive and emotional, but deep down they are full of love, socially adaptable and selfless.
3. Winners
This personality type seeks approval for all your actions. They fear being worthless or rejected. Sometimes they try too hard to get approval or recognition.
4. Individualists
Individualists strive to be unique. They are very talented and use their multitalent to express themselves and create art.
5. Researchers
They are visionaries and philosophers. They are constantly studying things, thinking about them and striving to perfect certain concepts. They change their views easily.
6. Loyal
They are devoted to their loved ones, but they are very afraid of being rejected. They seek support from others as much as they can give it. They value initiative and leadership. They fear the worst and are constantly on the lookout for potential harm.
7. Enthusiasts
This guy is the biggest adventurer out of all nine characters. They are usually free-spirited, extroverted and inquisitive, eager to experience new things. They are only afraid of being caught or stuck in a routine.
8. Challengers
Challengers have a strong will, look to the future, are strong and efficient. Others perceive them as somewhat boring, arrogant and prone to conflict. These are their occasional traits, but they work to protect what is important to them.
According to the Enneagram, you can also determine who your soul mate might be, and these are the most compatible couples according to this typology!
Six and eight
Sixes and eights are very responsible and dedicated, and to some extent a bit distrustful of the world. What's remarkable about this couple is that one can ease the other's deepest fears. The Eight's unfailing loyalty and devotion can help the Six feel less afraid of abandonment, while the Six's sincerity and reliability can help the Eight not question their partner's intentions.
Sixes benefit greatly from stable relationships, and Eights can definitely offer that. What's more, a Six can count on an Eight to always be open about their plans, so they'll never have to deal with worrying about the worst possible outcomes. Meanwhile, the Six can bring a little warmth, sensitivity and playfulness to the relationship, which helps the Eight to be a bit more vulnerable and show her softer side. As these two build mutual trust, it's a bond that can only grow stronger over time.
Two and three
Twos and Threes not only have common interests, but have similar charisma, energy levels, and emotional needs. That makes this a pretty powerful combination.
One of the reasons they are so compatible is that they both give compliments freely and generously, which is very important to them, as they crave it more than others. In this relationship, no one will wonder what the other feels, and everyone will feel valued. The caring Two gives the highly ambitious Three all the support they need to succeed, while the Three motivates and encourages the Two to focus on their own potential instead of spending all their energy helping others.
Not only that, they are both known to be sociable and charming, which means they can share and build a lively social life together.
One past seven
Enice is constantly looking for improvements, they have high expectations for themselves. They get along well with people who can help them relax, accept all the imperfections in life and be a little less hard on themselves. No one fits that description better than a relaxed and happy week.
It's a classic opposites attract scenario. While Ones bring care, organization and attention to detail to the relationship, Sevens bring curiosity, a sense of adventure and spontaneity. Basically, a one can help a seven stick to their visions and goals, while a seven can encourage a one to have fun every now and then.
Four past nine
Fours are known to be sensitive and driven by emotions. Therefore, the flexible nine is a suitable partner, as it welcomes every mood and emotional state of the four, which therefore feels safe at all times. At the same time, the four can awaken passion in the casual nine.
Fours may feel rejected, but luckily Nines are so gentle and supportive that they can find a way to communicate about touchy subjects without ever hurting others' feelings. Fours can encourage Nines to take care of themselves more often and be more open about their needs and desires.
Fours are also the only personality type in the Enneagram that matches itself.
Five past one
Since Singles are fairly independent and often focused on their careers, they are attracted to the innate self-sufficiency of a Friday. It allows them to continue doing their thing without feeling guilty about it. Fives, meanwhile, appreciate the loyalty and devotion of the One. Since both personality types are very perceptive and always eager to learn, this partnership can yield some profound discoveries.
Both are quite analytical, practical and fact-oriented. Both also value objectivity. These similarities can help in conflict because they don't let their feelings cloud their judgment. Since they both crave intellectual stimulation, they can easily find hobbies and activities they can bond over in their free time. Perhaps most importantly, both are aware of and respect personal boundaries, allowing them to build a solid foundation from the start.
