Are you interested in the method of Socrates, who tried to find out with a single question where true love is hidden?
Legend has it that Socrates asked his male friends, who would be rescued if there was a fire and they can only save one person. Will it be a wife or a child?
All the men answered him: "A baby, of course."
Socrates answered this: "I would save my wife. We will grow old together and she will have children. If I had saved the child, it would have been a tragedy and eternal sorrow, for him and for me. They would always remind each other of this tragedy. The child would lose his mother, maybe he would get a stepmother, but she would never love him as much as his mother did..."
Even today, women who have asked men this question are in the majority got the same answer: "I would save a child, a small defenseless creature."
And one the pensioner answered differently. "My wife and I have been married for 40 years. We have three sons, five grandchildren. We built the house with our own hands. Our children and grandchildren visit us regularly. I would save my wife. Children are just guests in our lives, in our house. Of course I love them and they love us. We are all expendable. If I could choose, I would choose to die next to my wife.”
These kinds of answers can open up many discussions, and it might be good to have a real talk about these kinds of things sometime. Who would you save? and with whom do you agree, the majority of men, or Socrates and the pensioner? You think divorces are so common, because we don't know how to appreciate our spouses enough? Perhaps the center of our world should not be children, but our spouse? Maybe we'd be happier if mom and dad liked each other a little more?
Parents would do anything for their children, but is it right for them to forget about themselves? One day the children will be gone and then they will be alone. Will you still meet or is your relationship over? Let's not forget that together with our partner we decided, to create a new life, that this is the fruit of our love. Therefore, let this love remain in your home forever.
