These are 7 effective ways to resolve conflict in your relationship

The key to a healthy relationship is good communication. However, resolving arguments requires good arguments that do not allow the conflict to escalate or expand into all kinds of detail.

Here are some ways to keep your relationship healthy and strong.

1. Don't repeat yourself

Repetitive and nonsensical words can alienate your partner, who may stop listening to you. Even if it's something you've already discussed, it can annoy or offend your partner.

Instead, even if you want to talk again about an issue you've already talked about, avoid words and phrases like "I like" or "Know", and don't let anger dominate your tone.

2. Avoid using adjectives that sound judgmental

It's surprising how often everyday expressions can make you sound judgmental, even if you didn't mean to. This is why many arguments arise when you least expect them and can even turn into a major conflict. To avoid using judgmental adjectives, it is good to use opinion statements.

"Good" or "Bad" replace with "I don't like it", "I don't like it" and other similar words. Also replace "Correct" or "wrong" with "Disagree" or "Arguments".

Change the statements of truth. This means that you do not start the sentence with "The truth is..." Change the statements of fact and use the word "Believe". Start by saying: "I believe..."

3. Understand your feelings first

You may want to identify your emotions first because they can be the main reason your judgment is clouded. This is why you should first get your feelings under control. If you notice that your feelings can influence your decisions, find a way to release them.

• Take a walk or take your dog for a walk.
• Listen to soothing music.
• Call a friend to distract yourself.
• Practice deep breathing and use the 4-7-8 method. Breathe in through your nose for a count of 4, hold your breath for a count of 7, then exhale through your mouth for a count of 8.

Don't jump to conclusions (listen to your partner first)

We tend to jump to conclusions – not only in our relationships, but also in our everyday interactions. This will disrupt your relationship and may even harm your mental health.

With a few simple steps, you can successfully defuse an argument.

• Think back to situations where you came to the wrong conclusion and how it affected things.
• First, look at and analyze the pieces of the bigger picture.
• Consider other options to change your original judgment.
• Watch other people jump to wrong conclusions on TV or in movies and analyze the result.

5. Make sure you are not acting narcissistically

Narcissistic tendencies will say things like: "I know best", and you won't think that other's perspective is worth listening to. This can lead to conflict and can even destroy your relationship. Instead of reacting with the idea that you know best, you should consider the following.

• Be open to the idea that there may be two or more correct answers.
• Be grateful for feedback from anyone, not just your partner, to help you evaluate your own behavior.
• Use the old-fashioned trick of stopping, thinking, and then reacting accordingly.

6. Use qualifying statements

When your partner shares their opinion with you or wants to respond to your opinion, you need to respond effectively and use statements "I" . This will allow you to take ownership of your feelings and thoughts while reducing his defensiveness.

Avoid the words: "You ignore me when you come home." Instead, say: "I feel ignored when you come home."

7. Avoid lecturing your partner

If you speak in a style that sounds like a lecture, your partner may stop listening to what you are saying. This can leave you feeling ignored and unheard and your partner behaving like a child.

Wanting to be the "boss", "teacher" or "professor" in a relationship will not help you at all. The effect will be just the opposite and will arouse resentment.

Instead of sounding like you're lecturing your partner, clearly explain your questions or concerns. Then give them the floor and don't assume you know all the answers. Listen to him with an open mind and heart, that way they will be receptive to what you want to tell them.