It has happened to each of us that we have received a compliment, which we later found out was not actually the case. And since treachery is not the best for anyone and can even hurt us, it is important to recognize such "compliments" and respond to them in an appropriate way. We have prepared for you examples of such compliments and ideas on how to respond to them.
We all want to be treated the way people treat us friendly and correctly, but in the real world, unfortunately, it often happens that this is not the case. That's why it's important to have thick skin and that you realize that the people who want to offend you most likely have a bunch own problems, which make them want others to feel as bad as they do.
Don't let them do it they achieve: if you will confident in themselves, yours opinion and abilities, we guarantee you that even the most insidious insults will not come to you came alive.
What are insults disguised as compliments?
Insults, which are disguised as compliments, people tend to use when they are afraid of coming off as rude and they want each other avoid confrontation, yet they want to offend you. You will meet them most often in company, because there will be people who will want you hurt, counting on the fact that in the public it is just them you will not react.
Examples of such insults are, for example, all the statements that follow them "... for a woman". The person will praise you for being a woman very smart, very calm, very capable… Please? Such statements are completely no sense, because intelligence and ability have absolutely nothing to do with gender and you can be a woman without any problems you compete male colleagues.
An example of this type of insult is also when someone remembers in front of others that what he can't believe it, that you are single. Although sometimes without bad intentions, such thinking is very backwards. A lot of people opt for a single apartment make a conscious decision, because they want to focus on yourself, on your own talents or career. Also, such a statement can be painful, if you have just broken up with your partner.
The same applies when someone compliments you, yes for his years you look great. Mature years by no means mean you should look bad– aging is something entirely natural and should fill us with pride.
A veiled insult can also be hidden in the statement that you are not like other women. Generalization by gender it has been a long time outdated: women among themselves they differ according to the way of thinking, hobbies, talents... That's why such a statement is by no means something you should do to cheer up.
Another example of a veiled insult is when someone comments that your dress really fits you, because it hides your pounds. If the person really wanted to give you a compliment, they would expressed it completely differently, so it tells you instead of how good you look own insecurity and the need, to offend others.
How to react to such statements?
Never respond to insults with I'm drooling or insults the persons she uttered. This is how you will present yourself in bad light. Nevertheless, it is important to know yourself set up for yourself and thus show the person that you have that kind of behavior you will not allow.
We suggest you respond to the insult with with a smile and a person you ask, what's up with that comment thought. Many times she will not expect it and it will start to happen to her to jam, but maybe she will even change her mind about in the sense of insidious insults. You can also on friendly way you say that was not nice of her and yes such a way of talking not something you would want in your company wanted.
You should also know that sometimes people expressed in the wrong ways and who we offend unintentionally. If you feel that this is exactly what happened and the statement was made by yours truly a friend, we recommend that you use it talk alone and to him explain, why such sentences are not appropriate.
