They say forgiveness is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself, but some actions don't deserve forgiveness, and you need to learn to say stop - you shouldn't even forgive the person you truly love.
It is quite true that forgiveness is another name for freedom, because that is the only way you can live good luck and calmly life. And it is true that there are things that you must, if you are willing of course, to forgive, to make your relationship with a certain person grew and lasted. However, you can't just ignore every mistake, because it is the pain is often too strong. Certain actions have an incredible impact on your life and define you as a person.
Even if others tell you that you should forget, it is important that you do follow your heart and se you respect. Because even the most sincere forgiveness sometimes cannot fix the relationship that was once destroyed.
These are things that you can only forgive conditionally, even to the person you really love...
Lying
All people lie, but a genuine relationship is based on honesty. You don't have to put up with constant lying, especially when the lies build up to the point where they destroy your relationship and you. Talk about the problem and move on if you find that the person has no intention of changing. Be aware that lies, if they are "white", can also be completely harmless.
Scam
There are different types of cheating, but a broken heart always hurts the same. A person who cheats has problems or lacks something in the relationship and in this way tries to find satisfaction in the other person. Everyone knows that cheating is unacceptable, so even a conversation will not correct the mistake. No one really deserves this.
Violence
No one can raise a hand over you. Many women or men who are in a relationship suffer from the feeling of being alone in this world. This is not always true. A man or woman who raises a hand over you once is not worth your time. There are a number of safe houses you can go to until you find your happiness elsewhere. You don't deserve to suffer hell.
Insults
It is entirely possible that you will occasionally say a nasty word to each other that will not end the relationship. Well, constant insults are just not a normal thing. No one should call you ugly names, threaten you or make fun of you. Explain to the person that there are boundaries and that this kind of vocabulary offends you.
Jealousy
Envy and jealousy are the main reasons that break up relationships. Everyone knows that healthy jealousy is harmless, but daily attacks are not a normal thing. They destroy the quality of your life. Sick jealousy is the worst thing that can happen to you because it will be difficult for you to change the person and your relationship will never be based on trust. You will be in prison!
Manipulation
People who take advantage of your goodness are manipulating you. You should not be afraid to end the relationship with such a person, because no one should order you or ask you to do a certain thing that you do not want to do. Even if you try to talk to them, they will get angry and it will be your fault again. So it is much better to get out of captivity and start living a happy and peaceful life.
No one can force you to end a relationship with a person who does any of the above. Only you decide how long will you be able to hold on and is it even worth it?. But be aware that everything has its limits and even if it's difficult for you, sometimes it's better to take your own path, without people who spoil your everyday life.
Life is full of surprises, events, circumstances... but one rule always applies: don't settle for less, because love is generous and not hell. If someone doesn't treat you like a living being, it's time to make a choice freedom.
